The disappearing quiet love
Why we feel we don’t see stable relationships anymore. It’s not that they don’t exist it’s that the ecosystem has changed.
Few pointers which I feel sum it up:
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Shorter Patience cycles: Modern life optimizes for fast success, fast validation and fast exits but I think good relationships are slow systems. They compound, not spike.
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Individual identity > Shared Identity Earlier, it was like “We’ll figure life out together.” but now its “Don’t slow my growth.”
Neither is wrong but they require very different emotional contracts.
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Choice overload: Dating apps + social media create the illusion “There’s always someone better". This makes people optimize instead of commit.
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Less tolerance for discomfort: Healthy long-term relationships involve bored phases, unequal growth phases, sacrifice without immediate reward. Today, discomfort is often interpreted as incompatibility.
This is something which I have just observed...I haven’t gone through the process myself yet. Bcz its more riskier than F&O but my feelings are like FD.
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The problem is not expectations ,change in life style. It's people age out by the time they start a relationship.
Think of it like this - a 4 year old kid sings rhymes, it will look cute. If an 18 year old sings, it will look mentally retarded. Same goes for relationships. Late 20s is too late to start a relationship. If it already 30s+, I ask why waste time?
Blame the women... Men have no solution..
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