The Arranged Marriage Wake-Up Call
I’m 29, single, and living in Bangalore. I’ve been working in IT consulting for nearly 6 years. I joined my current org straight out of college. After over 5 years of client timesheets, 4 appraisal cycles, and 1 promotion, my salary stands at 14 LPA.
Recently, my parents started looking for matches in the arranged marriage market. Sounds like a normal phase? It’s not.
The conversations with families were a brutal wake-up call. They made it painfully clear how far behind I am I thought having a stable job at a reputed global MNC would matter. My raw CTC? Don’t ask. I’ve spent years working hard, logging billable hours
Good wake up call though man, your salary is less for BLR. Time to switch it up a little?
If your parents are selecting based on looks then they are selecting based on salary. Just search yourself on matrimonial websites. Talk to girls who are handling their own profiles
It's happened with girls too now
As clichéd as it might sound, the right girl will seek you and not your money, so have patience. Also, don't listen to the so-called parents, relatives, and friends on the girl's side; they would want a millionaire guy for their daughter even if she has failed 7th grade or, worse, if her brother is earning 3 LPA at 30.
Ladki ladka kharid na ka market ko arrange marriage bolte he, apni aukat dekh ke loge to kuch nahi hoga, mehenga kharid ne jaoge to shop se hi jalil karke vaga denge, tum jise brutal truth bol rahe ho, ameer log wase shadi har sal winter Mein karte he or hal sal aise hi karte he
These types of girls won't stand with you in case you lose your job, or in any uncertainty.
Girl may not be doing anything but they want son in law earning 50+LPA independent, with personal car and home.
I’m in same phase but just rejecting those people who more interested in my ctc and property
My friend, I encourage you to focus on self-improvement not solely for the purpose of marriage, but for your own personal growth and future well-being. While it is true that some may advise against marrying someone who is primarily interested in your financial standing, it is equally important for you to assess your own capacity to provide for your current family. If you find yourself lacking in this regard, I suggest striving for continuous growth and development.
Furthermore, beyond your income, your character as an individual, including your habits and hobbies, holds significant importance. I recommend initiating small improvements in your life, such as maintaining good health, achieving a desirable physique, and dressing presentably. These seemingly minor changes can have a substantial positive impact on both your personal and professional life. Additionally, I suggest reading enriching books to enhance your communication skills and vocabulary.
Ultimately, marriage is a process that unfolds differently for everyone; some experience early success, while for others, it may take more time. However, it is crucial to persevere without succumbing to stress.
