Team bonding breaking my family bonding
Guys I need your sincere opinion on this.
I am married since 4 years. My wife also works it IT. She generally has 2 days work from office. But the problem I am facing is:
- she is mostly on her office laptop even after coming back home, on weekends as in office she is busy hanging out with colleagues
- Mostly chit chatting with her colleagues , she plans her office days based on her male friends in office. Even I am sick she will leave me and go if her male friends are coming to office.
On confronting she tells: I hang out with them to get my work done, I make funny casual and comfortable talk with him so that he help me in my work. I caught her many times and going in his car saying going for team outing. I am finding it very uncomfortable to go through this, please give your honest opinion what shall I do?
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Take a 10-min AI interview to qualify for numerous real jobs auto-matched to your profile 🔑@WhisperedVascular @LoveIsDivine Brother actually this post is written by wife(myself) . My husband is doing all this. I changed the gender to understand boys mindset why they do this to their wife. If I write this directly that my husband is doing this no boy will come and tell me that he is doing to much.
They will it’s you women hormone which is making you overthink. LADKA AB OFFICE ME KAAMAE BHI NA , and all this he tells me
All those reason for hanging out with male colleagues are bullshit even when you have objected , now face the reality doomsday is coming for you
Start projecting your assets ,get in touch with a lawyer
Start looking for a partner
May God be with you
But she keeps telling I am overthinking itna to chalta hai.
Guys I want to ask you all , do you also entertain people just to get your work done or you do because you are bored at home and you feel good with opposite sex around?
This is why I am not getting married to avoid bullshit like this. If you ask her directly you will be labelled as toxic for sure, If a girl truly respects you, understands you she won't do this because she knows it hurts for you. always keep this in mind. She's not a child to repeat the same thing many times.
GV stories are shaking belief... but I have a question.. what do these ppl get married ...matlab jo jisse shaadi ki uski na ho ske... dusre ki kaise... hella shit times..
Don't confront her directly coz u will always be on the losing end, take it slow and pursue her to switch for growth, let her feel that ur supporting her. It's ur family u have to handle it diplomatically. No-one's gonna save it for u.
I told her but day by day it’s getting worse. I am getting panic attacks making her understand difference between being professional and highly casual . She tells I am narrow minded i don’t understand “IT me ye sab karna padta hai team me politics karne k lie apna kaam nikalwane k lie.
Are you working?
This is a weird feeling lady. You want to ask him out. But can't. Make him feel jealousy. He is taking you for granted. Doesn't mean you do tit for tat nor hangout with guys. But think of something, so he feels jealous. Something like, you get some award, n all men fraternity worship you. I don't know if it would trigger his inferiority. Or if you directly tell him, then you touch his ego, now he will do it more often more purposefully to hurt you. Okay. Check his n yours astro charts. See if he is into adultery. Let's lie adultery is confirmed in his chart. Now you stage a drama to just express your true love to him to make him realise that you are a genuine sole dependent on him... Scene goes like this: scene 1.. you are very sad at home. You are angry on phone. But hugging your husband n crying after cutting the call. You pick some astro charts print outs n tear it apart n throw is all over. You are mad. But husband sees all this and asks why are you mad. (Scene 2) Baby you know how much I love you. I can't imagine a life without you. If you die I ll also die. You are my life. How can this shitty astrologer say that you are into adultery. I don't won't believe in astrology here after. I can't take a bs even as a imagination that my husband is cheating. I m gonna kil that soothsayr. .(Scene 3) TBC
Yes I am working,earning very good , mix of modern and traditional,from rich affluent family.
Yesterday I got panic attack was crying in his arms like a mad person, scratching my hair , begging pleading not to spoil our marriage.
All he was saying is same dialogue, you are overthinking my intentions are not bad. It’s just I want help from her, she is old employee have domain knowledge so i follow her.
I told him: Mujhe izzat ki kamai chahiye, agar mujhe ya apko paise ya kaam k lie kisi k aage peeche karne pade to mujhe aise paise nai chaiye.
Today is holiday, tomorrow as well. I am waiting for Tuesday when his office will resume and let’s see even after seeing me in this stage if he continues the same behaviour or what
I have noticed that all these Dell employees are getting cucked
Most men or women do it for the thrill. I have personally heard it so many times and I know ppl do that as well. I guess it’s upto u what u want in ur relationship. Some ppl r ok with it and some want commitment and some even join their partners. At the end of the day it’s u who has to take a call thats all I can say brother/ sister 😊
No official work demands such things from either side unless you are willing to do these things to get additional benefits, better hike, better role or work or you are simply an attention seeker.
I have seen both girls and guyz doing this. Trying to be over friendly to get in each other's pants.
Yes exactly
Okay I understand you are girl over there. And yeah this changes if men does the same. If you are not having kids yet. Please sit and discuss and quit babs. Mostly he might not interested in you and he married you only for unpaid maid or for his parents. And the reason they saying I'm going to get work done is bullshit. Most of men are technically more intelligent and have good circle than women as they don't have to answer for making male or female colleagues. But same with women doesn't work if her husband is not open minded. So sit and talk clearly explain your expectations whether he can meet or not then decide
I am UI developer with 9years of experience, come from rich affluent family. I was miss fresher in my college(mentioning this so people don’t feel ki average looking hogi office me usko high-profile ladki dikhi to he is attracted). He is average looking but still i love him and married thinking simple boys are best partner. But here I am crying in corner, I made distance from my good friend circle so that I can give my 100 percent to my marriage. But yes still people find excuses for fun