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I went to party with colleagues last week and I complimented someone on their dress. She made a big tantrum about how that was inappropriate. But on the other hand, when our boss made the same comment but even more crass then she was very jovial and upbeat.
What did I do wrong here? Have you seen this double standard happen too at Accenture?
Why do you need to compliment in first instance? Be careful with new people in the team. Also remember colleagues are not friends
@notbot i always try to be a good person to people here.
Fuck this good person hypocrisy! Just do work, get salary, enjoy with friends and family that's it.
Office is not meant for Friendship. Same Gender People are better friends opposite gender can impose POSH on you
Aap reason acche se jaante ho toh fir bhi yahan poochna thoda hypocrite nahi laga aapko.
Waise ek comfort level bhi hota hai saamne waale ka. For e.g., Holi festival. Aap kisi pe bhi uthake paani ya rang nahi daal sakte na aur fir keh do, “bura na maano holi hai”.
Bhyi kyun na maane bura. Its about acceptance. You can’t force urself on somebody.
I have always wondered an answer to this question but never found an authentic one.
Ultimately my conclusion is that the “compliment” that a person (say A) provides to another person (say B) could be perceived in n number of ways considering the different factors that come into play.
Especially, to count a few, the factors such as perspective, pretext/context, atmosphere, conscious/unconscious bias, affinity, and so on and on.
Therefore, my way of approaching this scenario is : don’t compliment anyone of any ethnicity / background / race / gender (especially in professional network) unless you have established a BFF level friendship with them and you are sure of the outcome of your compliment.
This is just my opinion.
@ZingerBurger I completely agree with what you are saying. I will ensure from now on that I only discuss professional things with that lady. I dont want to end up like another statistic.
Hope you understand that your intention is creepy here whether you agree or not. Creepy things are not tolerated in Accenture. Who gave you right to comment on other’s attire? Is she your friend, do you share that level of comfort with each other? This is work place and behave in decorum. What is equation with her and her manager is their business and not yours to comment even. May be they share that level of comfort with each other.
How a girl looks this is - you telling her you look good without any comfort level is a tharki dudhwala saying bhabhiji aap mal lag rahe ho… you telling this to your wife is considered as compliment because you share that comfort level.
@ACNShark I agree with what you are saying. I will go and apologize to her right away. I made a big mistake. I am very scared.
I don’t know what’s wrong in this, the only problem I seen in this is the first guy is manager who is basically going to help Susan at the time of promotion or increment where as you are of no help. And also to pass comment like this first you need to be on friendly terms we are not living in west india is still very closed and traditional society. And last point is why you even given this kind of comment this is creepy be sakhtlaunda
Don’t trust anyone, no matter how good they are at workspace. Your ally today can become your worse nightmare once roles change, so be careful, stick to compliments related work alone not on any individual. Weather it’s at office or outside during team outings or in cab or anywhere. POSH happens every time
Jai shree ram
Never compliment. You don’t know who is planning to do what?
