Stammering-Software engineering as a career
Hi folks, looking for some advice. My brother is currently in 12th and he has a speech impediment. He stammers. He really struggles in highly stressful situations. He wants chose BTECH CSE and become a software engineer. I'm really worried about how his career would be in a private software firm. I myself work as a SDE in a MNC, and my daily job involves a lot of calls and occassional presentations and it will only grow as I progress through my career.
What do you guys think ? I feel software Engineering is highly stressful and the stress only becomes exponential as you progress through your career and it wouldn't be a right career choice for him.
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Any job that pays well is stressful. Don't try to shield him, work with him to make him strong.
If it's a conditional speech impediment, maybe therapy can help him get over it. If you can afford it, start sending him now, there's a good chance things will improve in 4 years.
If you can't afford it right now, CSE will give him the skills to earn enough to afford it later, probably.
Also, careers are not set in stone. If he doesn't like IT, he can always switch to doing something else with his life later. Don't optimise prematurely.
Hey thanks.. we have tried speech therapy and it's not helping much.. i know I'm probably optimising prematurely , but struggling to communicate infront of people might impact him a lot mentally. At this point I'm thinking about ECE OR EEE , where there is an opportunity to work for PSU companies like BHEL or ISRO DRDO etc, which are easy going and not as stressful as an IT job. If it doesn't work out he can always come to IT .
If my family thought less of me and made me switch branches just because of my impediment, that would also affect my mental health a lot, especially make me loose confidence in my abilities.
I think as a person, he should have a say in his important life decisions.
Maybe try to communicate these fears with him. If he understands, he might change his decision. I think it's not right to force someone to change their path just because you are fearful.
I used to stammer very frequently until I was 17-18 and I still stammer once in a while. BTW, I'm in hardcore sales :)
I would strongly against creating a habit of co-dependency, stammering or no stammering. Please allow your sibling to make independent decisions based on his own introspection and research. Create a space where he can come to help and advice, yet remain an independent minded person.
Look for firms with Diversity and Inclusion
I had a major stammering issue a few years back. Today I am earning significantly more than my peers and would call myself fairly successful.
The trick that worked for me was meditation and gaining as much knowledge as possible.
Happy to connect with your brother if you would like.
Sr Engineering Manager who indirectly manages around 25+ folks.
My teams best engineer stammers. Not going to deny that it creates a problem in communication especially since we are remote. But the guy is is too good technically so over a period people have adjusted to it. And that is more or less because of how good he is technically.