FuzzyLlama
FuzzyLlama

Should you disrespect your parents for someone new in your life

Should you disrespect your parents for someone new in your life

This narration of the story is from my friend's parents. He is my colleague. He has been in a relationship for the past 4 years. Before coming in this relationship he was an ideal boy who would do all work given by his parents be it house related or any other documents related work. He was zimmedar according to his parents but as soon as he had this relationship it appears like he has been brainwashed. His parents had deposited money in some post office which my friend took out without letting them know and spent it on his new interest. Though it was not huge approx 30k but his parents felt he had cheated on them although it was for his future only( He was in college at that time). Next came the disrespectful part , now he neither sits with his parents nor listens to them if they ask him to do anything , he fights with aunty. It's like their son comes sleeps eats and then goes back to work. Also they are concerned about his financial situation. They told he has been borrowing money from his other friends and his bank balance is almost empty in starting 15 days of the month itself and he used to take money from home after that. Since he was not at all listening to his parents ,uncle aunty decided not to give any financial assistance to him. His behaviour has also changed now in office also he is most of the time talking to his gf and ignoring other tasks and all. His friend circle has also decreased. The only problem in his relationship is his parents are not ready to accept that girl as her family background(both mother and father have no job and is drinker )is not good and they think she is a gold digger because of the above mentioned case. Since they are not working so they were just surviving their 5 member family but after this relationship their living standard has uplifted. They wanted me to talk to him and make him understand he is choosing a wrong path but here I am only not able to get it is my friend wrong?Basically I think he should not disrespect his parents as he is their only son. I need some options to get the right approach to talk to him.

Should I talk to him
Is my friend right
Should I leave it as it is
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DancingCoconut
DancingCoconut

For the sake of uncle aunty, you should talk to him. It might have hurt them a lot seeing their only son behave like this!

WigglyUnicorn
WigglyUnicorn

That is such naive way to think πŸ₯Ή

GroovyBanana
GroovyBanana

No matter what yoelur parents do to you.. Nothing cokes above them in your life... Nothing..... No gf, friend, religion nothing...

FuzzyLlama
FuzzyLlama
TCS16d

I too have the same opinion

JazzyKoala
JazzyKoala

Crude Comment:

Looking at timeline described in your post. It appears your friend is young, probably below 25.

Your friend is getting something from his relationship which his parents and friends circle can't provide.

You just can't convince him, by talking to him. Period.

Unless and until this girl has found a bigger πŸ’° than your friend, there is no hope.

Matters which are purely governed by thoughts emanating from below belt are difficult to solve.

JazzyKoala
JazzyKoala

@PepperyCalorie46

Best thing you can do is not confront your friend.As he will cut you loose. Irreparable and never going back types.

Better be there for him when he gets fucked literally and figuratively.

SwirlyMuffin
SwirlyMuffin

I think your friend is completely blind in love πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈ You can try talking to him but don't be too optimistic. He won't really take your advice seriously.
Really feeling sad for his parents. πŸ™ The girl actually seems to be a gold digger, I don't see any reason for the boy to spend so much on her during his college days. Also, any girl with self respect wouldn't let his partner provide for her by 'stealing' money from parents. πŸ˜ͺ Typical Nibba-Nibbi behavior! πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈ

TwirlyCupcake
TwirlyCupcake

Guy needs to be kicked out of the house.

FuzzyLlama
FuzzyLlama
TCS16d

He is their only son so they can't just let him go

JumpyPretzel
JumpyPretzel

He clearly seems wrong here, the way his overall behaviour is. But you should talk to him only if you are really really close to him, like his best friend, otherwise stay out.

MagicalCupcake
MagicalCupcake

I think if u talk to him, he will ignore his parents more. Is ur friend in his early 20s. This is not happening cuz of gf. This is his childish teen behavior.

FuzzyLlama
FuzzyLlama
TCS16d

He is almost 23

BubblyBanana
BubblyBanana
TCS4d

His parents deserve better.

WigglyUnicorn
WigglyUnicorn

Despo ladke aise hi ho jate h pehle relationship me aane ke baad 😒... But if he's taking money from his parents .. that's a sign he totally lost his brain..

TwirlyUnicorn
TwirlyUnicorn

Son needs belt treatment

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