Should I move out of my parents' house?
I'm 25M. I never joined a hostel during my college days. After getting a job, I still live with my parents even though my office is 30 km away. I have never known how it feels to live with friends. I earn a decent salary but I don't feel like I'm living my life to the fullest.
My life is something like this.
I wake up at 9. Start my work from 10 to 5. Gym from 5 to 7. Chit chat with gym bros from 7 to 7:30. Then come back home, check work again from 7:30 to 8:30. Dinner from 8:30 to 9. Video games or leetcode from 9 to 10. Scrolling youtube from 10 to 11. Sleep 11 to 9
I feel like there are a lot of restrictions from my parents even though they don't say it openly. I'm very conscious that I should be back home by 9 pm. Sometimes I avoid going out just because my parents might ask why. I'm even afraid to call my friends over at home out of the fear of what my parents might think. I'm fearful of even watching Netflix on tv because my parents always stay in the living hall and watch whatever I watch. I recently had a breakup as well which I feel is because I was not able to spend a lot of time with her and improve our bonding.
So, I have been thinking if I should move out. When my brother moved out a year ago, my parents told me not to follow in his footsteps. They even told me what if something happens to them and no one is around. So, they always want me to stay with them.
This is kind of a difficult situation for me. I love my parents. It's only because of them I am where I am. But at the same time, I'm feeling like I'm missing out on my social life.
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How are you sleeping 10 hours 😭 Bro has taken recovery to a whole new level
Haha. I mostly sleep 8-9 hrs. Remaining 1-2 hrs it's just lying down on my bed
You get this much sleep because you are at your home. Once you start living separately from your parents you have to manage lots of things and you realise that you are getting less time for yourself
Bro you are living a life which many people dream of, staying with parents is such a bliss. You’ll get to know their actual value when you stay away from them.
I don't know. My parents rarely talk to me. My mom stays in her bedroom watching tv serials on her phone. My dad in the living hall watching tv and me in my room with my damn laptop.
Brother there are two perspectives I am 26M , living away from Home since last 7-8 years and all i want is to move back...The life you are living is a dream life for many and regarding the restrictions, it could just be your thinking and or else try having an open conversation with your parents. Living away from home looks cool from afar , but it is when you start living apart you see the real issues...
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Good point, but again its a matter of priorities.
- Choose freedom and lose on food, shelter, other free stuff
- Stay at home with free stuff and lose freedom.
Personally, i prefer the 1. I believe I can earn, stepup and take care of my life than lose my freedom for freebies. Again, this applies if your parents are very stubborn like OP.
Hell yes, I know a lot of people who live in a pg even though their parents stay in the same city. I've personally be living
It's better to talk and position that you need to be out more to learn more and stay up to date and competitive by networking, spending more time outside, travelling, etc.
You always mention you are just a call away and would visit once a week/bi-weekly.
Yeah, I think I'll do this. Thanks for the suggestion.
You are walmart employee which means you are rich so you can think like this. For me living in my parents house saves rent. Even though my office is 25-28 kms away and it takes 4.5 hrs in up down commute per day.
Bro I am 24 and the only reason I am staying at my parents's is because I am not earning enough, bro this is not the life that you should be living, I am not asking you to go full party animal mode but things should be in moderation, you should know what's right and what's wrong, you don't do things because you are afraid of them, this is making you someone who would do everything once he gets the chance, like someone straight out from zoo, I was also like this, but now I have started fighting for it, I cannot live away from them but I go out on weekends to enjoy with friends, they ask me that what's this & I was always afraid of them but I realised that this is my 20s, they are never gonna come back, so I have to take the stand for things I want, I know in my mind that I am not doing wrong things just some chill out with friends, exploring various cuisines and different places, and it's turning out nice for me
I have this friend, his parents ask him to go out and chill with friends, to hangout and explore places, this made me realise that the right parents always does this, the one who doesn't are the ones who try to control their kids, they don't raise kids, they raise perfectly balanced robots who will do things as per their wishes, and the moment u won't do what they want is when bacha haath se gaya moment for them, if u r thinking that what they don't like this, they don't like that, then they also think that our kid wants this, our kid wants that
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Short answer - yes
Long answer - heck yes
Absolutely. Living and spending time with people of diverse perspectives also broadens your own horizon and brings an open mindset.
This will also bring you opportunities you never knew existed. You should do it.