should i marry the love of my life or not?
There's a girl i love. We met in 2022 and everything was going great , the healthiest relationship everyone craves for. But in 2023 she moved abroad for higher studies and then planned to settle there. In 2024, i told my family about her but due to the different religions they hesitated and my girl wanted me to shift abroad as well with my family(as i cannot leave my family). But my family doesn't want to shift abroad due to everything they build throughout their life in india and other things. Due to this me and my girl had a lot of fights and our relationship became complicated and in that time she proposed to another guy for marriage and that guy denied it. She came back to me to ask me to marry her. Now I cannot shift abroad, she doesn't want to come back to india, she just gives me confused signals that she might come back so let's get back together. I am not talking to her right now because i feel betrayed because of what she did. We didn't break up at that but she said that at that time there was nothing between us that's why i proposed to that other guy. Regardless of what she did I still love her a lot, i get anxious just by imagining her with someone else but I am afraid of getting betrayed again in future as she's still friends with that other guy and there are complications of countries as well. She texts me and calls me to get back together. What should I do?
Once a girl is gone.. she truly never comes back.. Don't be a cheap alternate... Find someone who makes you your priority...Was in the same situation..of "can't see her with someone else".. Time heals everything.. Everyone finds a better person after this situation.. And you won't regret cutting her off from your life.
Bro! Wtf! Runnn from that girl.
Before marriage itself she doesn't care for.ypur family, their opinions, preferences and most of ALL about YOU!
If she proposed to someone then it has already been over, you're just an option.
Marry her and regret for all the things she's going to do to you or go for ANY random girl and have better chances at love.
Don't mistake attachment for love,. just go and leave her - it's a very open and shut case.
If not for yourself do it for your parents, be a man atleast once and take a stand for your self-respect
So she's supposed to only care about him and his family? Bruh relationships is all about compromise there is no sunshine and rainbows throughout.
Yeh to samasya hai re 😢
You know the answer. Break it off and move on. You can't move there with your family, she's not going to come back to India for you.
Best to call it quits and find someone else, both of you.
Being a girl, I can give you an alternate theory. She might have proposed to that guy feeling hopeless, sometime we do take decisions which we don't want to just being clueless and hopeless. Or she might wanted to test you and your reaction for her action. But yeah you are best judge of the situation as we all have very limited information which you have shared. Don't just force yourself to believe that she loves you because you want that. Look at everything from a fair lense and judge your relationship.
that's what she tells me that she was hopeless that's why she proposed, but what if that guy accepted her proposal, then she would not be texting me right now to fix everything, she'd have gone long already and i feel betrayed but i love her that's why i was so confused and regarding the different countries things, i was ready to put efforts to get it fixed
I need a wife to look after me and my family aah post.
So many things to unpack here. First she is a stubborn woman who can't make compromises.
Second your family doesn't want "your" happiness, or your future life they want to stay in india because that makes them happy. A parent should not be doing that.
This woman and your family, they're both weighing you down.
So parents should think about their children's happiness over their own life? Would you sacrifice your career for your child then? Double standards here
Bro u already kn the answer... Ur hesitating cuz u truly loved her. I would just highlight which many already have highlighted in the comments she proposed to some other guy even when you guys have not ended. So don't be an easy option. It will be very painful and better. Even if you say no to her she ain't gonna feel shit like u are she will willingly go to someone else like nothing happened.
where is the confusion here? you cannot go abroad, she wont come back to india. Game over.
Dude…regardless of what she did I still love her?
First of all there are certain things that we define as non. I understand parents not wanting to move abroad and that is actually true too, it would be difficult for them to get a life there at this age specially, and if they are not comfortable spending their old age this way, we must respect that.
You cannot leave them and move alone, thats for you to define as non negotiable or so?
If it’s a nonnegotiable and there’s no way you would let this happen…I think you already know the answer then.
Now coming to the point.She proposed someone else -> meaning she moved on from you and chose to dream of a life with someone else but since that did not work now back to you. Do you think she respects you right now?
Don’t try to be an overtly good person. Be greedy for yourself and please value yourself. Make a choice and never look back at it with regret. You are just a fallback. And once a fallback , always a falllback. She clearly ain’t making the best decisions, but you have a chance to move on. Please do that!
