Short guys (5’3”) in arranged marriage setups. How do you deal with height rejections? Women, why does it matter so much?
Hey everyone,
I’m a 5’3” (160 cm) guy actively looking for a partner through arranged marriage. I consider myself decent-looking with a manly vibe, deep voice, good diction, confident demeanor.
I’ve met a few women who genuinely enjoyed our dates and interactions, but rejected my proposal citing my height as the dealbreaker.
It’s frustrating because these women are often 5’0”-5’3” themselves.
Women in the community, can you help me understand the logic? Why does height matter so much when you’re not tall either? Is it societal pressure, personal preference, or something else? What would make height a non-issue for you?
Fellow short kings, how have you navigated this in arranged marriages? What strategies worked? targeting certain communities, profiles, or approaches?
Any success stories or tips on getting past the height filter? What options do I have moving forward?
Appreciate any honest advice or experiences. Trying to make sense of all of this.
Height is a deal breaker for many girls, just like boys don’t like fat girls .
Are you a woman? Could you help me understand what goes on in a woman’s head when they come across a short guy?
See personal opinion, I will prefer tall guys as I myself am 5’4 and girls shorter than me barely 5 want 6ft guys they are asking in arranged marriage, personal experience in our family
You need to sit calmly and think once, height might not be the issue, there might be some other reason but citing that reason might hurt, so height is used as a shield.
There are people shorter than this who get married! If someone is genuinely rejecting just for height, despite good qualities in you, their loss. But if everyone is rejecting for height, there is something else that you are overlooking.
Out of every excuse imaginable, why do people zero in on this one?
A woman even said it outright that my photos and voice on the phone gave her one impression, but were caught by surprise when they saw me in-person.
It's the best reason without any counter!
What can you do of your height! Nothing, best way to say a clear NO.
If they say - too ugly -> inner beauty matters
Too weak, too fat -> will do gym
Too arrogant -> introvert will open up slowly
I mean, they don't want you, but don't worry you will soon find the best match for you.
Money,and status match with the girl's parents.. That's what everyone looks for... All this height, weight and not a good person,,are BS shields..
Somehow some girls strongly look for height in boys and boys look for fair and slim girls. This perception came from society, environment and family upbringing etc. It is deep rooted in them. So don't even think to change them. Trust me there are girls and boys who doesn't believe in these standards. I've seen such couples where girl is an inch taller than boy. And couples where the girl is dark and boy is fair. They didn't compromise. They genuinely love each other and pretty much happier. Jealous society however tries to shame. So there is a hope. Don't worry. Not every girl judges a boy by his height and package.
Thank you for this.
If you are 5'3 , equivalent for you would be 5 or lower girls. Girls are naturally shorter. Go for them.
And obviously height matters, you don't want your children to be a dwarf because of your partner's genes
Most of the women I met fit this criteria, but even they have higher expectations for a guy’s frame. Nevermind, thanks anyways!
5 inch is really short ?
I never had a height complex or gave it much though until multiple women pointed it out.
That’s when I took a close look in the mirror and noticed my “V-shape” body structure i.e broad shoulders tapering down to a narrower lower body, like a bodybuilder. This frame I feel doesn’t quite match my overall height.
I guess this is probably because of all the heavy lifting I’ve done at the gym since my younger days.
I mean see if wife and husband both are short then highly likely that their kid will also be short. Probably because of this reason. Secondly, taller height gives a feeling of man being able to protect better and gives more sense of safety.
It still can be hurtful and take a toll on your confidence. Don’t be bogged down by these rejections. You will find the right one in time.
All the best for your search
I feel there are so many factors at play when it comes to the height of one’s offspring such as nutrition, health, hormones, and other environmental factors and socioeconomic conditions. Even if both parents are short, a child can still end up taller than them if they inherit more “tall” gene variants and grow up in good conditions.
Thanks a lot for the wishes by the way.
As someone said,Money beats everything, Try to focus on earning more, Have some patience and Trust me everything falls in to place rather than worrying about the things that are not in your hand.
Thank you.
