Short guys (5’3”) in arranged marriage setups. How do you deal with height rejections? Women, why does it matter so much?
Hey everyone,
I’m a 5’3” (160 cm) guy actively looking for a partner through arranged marriage. I consider myself decent-looking with a manly vibe, deep voice, good diction, confident demeanor.
I’ve met a few women who genuinely enjoyed our dates and interactions, but rejected my proposal citing my height as the dealbreaker.
It’s frustrating because these women are often 5’0”-5’3” themselves.
Women in the community, can you help me understand the logic? Why does height matter so much when you’re not tall either? Is it societal pressure, personal preference, or something else? What would make height a non-issue for you?
Fellow short kings, how have you navigated this in arranged marriages? What strategies worked? targeting certain communities, profiles, or approaches?
Any success stories or tips on getting past the height filter? What options do I have moving forward?
Appreciate any honest advice or experiences. Trying to make sense of all of this.
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You need to sit calmly and think once, height might not be the issue, there might be some other reason but citing that reason might hurt, so height is used as a shield.
There are people shorter than this who get married! If someone is genuinely rejecting just for height, despite good qualities in you, their loss. But if everyone is rejecting for height, there is something else that you are overlooking.
Out of every excuse imaginable, why do people zero in on this one?
A woman even said it outright that my photos and voice on the phone gave her one impression, but were caught by surprise when they saw me in-person.
It's the best reason without any counter!
What can you do of your height! Nothing, best way to say a clear NO.
If they say - too ugly -> inner beauty matters
Too weak, too fat -> will do gym
Too arrogant -> introvert will open up slowly
I mean, they don't want you, but don't worry you will soon find the best match for you.
Ya 5 inch is good for Lilliput.. We calculate in ft, just kidding 😁
5 inch is really short ?
Money,and status match with the girl's parents.. That's what everyone looks for... All this height, weight and not a good person,,are BS shields..
Somehow some girls strongly look for height in boys and boys look for fair and slim girls. This perception came from society, environment and family upbringing etc. It is deep rooted in them. So don't even think to change them. Trust me there are girls and boys who doesn't believe in these standards. I've seen such couples where girl is an inch taller than boy. And couples where the girl is dark and boy is fair. They didn't compromise. They genuinely love each other and pretty much happier. Jealous society however tries to shame. So there is a hope. Don't worry. Not every girl judges a boy by his height and package.
the girls you are talking to are having boyfriend in secret and because of girl's family pressure they are just doing Groom shopping.