Seeking Some Honest Advice on My Relationship
I really needed a space to let this out.
So, I’m in a relationship — we both are 26. It’s a semi-long-distance thing… not too far, but we end up meeting once a month or sometimes even after two months.
We do talk daily, but it’s mostly just for 5 minutes. Lately, I keep feeling like he talks to me more out of duty — like just to avoid arguments — rather than genuinely wanting to.
I love him, but I’m confused. I can’t figure out if he really wants me in his life or if I’m just there to give him emotional comfort when he needs it.
I know no one can give me a clear answer, and honestly, I don’t even expect a magical solution. It’s just… I have no one I feel comfortable enough to talk to about this openly.
If anyone has been through something similar, or if you have any advice from the heart — how to understand such feelings or what should I do — I would really appreciate it.
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The first thing I don't know is how many days,months,and years you guys are together.
So let's suppose X years -- okay so he does something to make you feel special ? It's not like every time but at least once a day ? About anything he loves or likes? Then he is a good person.
Second --- does he fight for you with everyone? Does he think about you ? Does he take care of you ? Does he ever talk about the future with you ? Does he talk about your favourite place like where he will take you after marriage obviously for honeymoon ?
Does he ask questions? Or take suggestions from you ? Does he ask how is/was your day ? Does he plan something for you ( when you guys meet ) ? Does he talk to your siblings ( brother/sister ) ? Does he call your mom his mom ? Same for Dad ? Does he think your family is his family too ? Do you guys ever feel sparkle or something like that ( bit nervous, very excited to meet ) because you are meeting after a month or so ?
Ask yourself. Nobody can help you out. It's you and him.
There are a lot of things I can say here ... But I hope everything will sort out and hopefully your guy is a good person !
Wish you the best 🤞
Awesome, this is from women perspective Can you share set of questions/ observations/ comments/ from men perspective? Arrange marriage setup
Honestly if you think it's a true honest love continue the relationship , and if you feel like he's distancing himself ,try to have a serious talk with him it would be better if you guys met in person and have a talk rather than having conversation on phone,face to face conversation would be better, be open urself saying whatever you want to say to him , same applies to him, after that see what you want to do continue the relation or not.
I don’t know but :
5 mins is too less of a time. I mean yes, if he is going through a certain phase of life where he is super busy or even needs space right now, but if this period sustains for a longer times then it ain’t right.
It’s never about time, more about efforts and being consistent. Even a short conversation can be meaningful and worthy , but if you feel like you are the one who has to try hard to scrape off a conversation for once..then it ain’t right and that imbalance will start to hurt eventually.
When someone truly cares, they will find ways to reach out to you despite anything and even on busier days.
At the end of the day, relationships are built on little moments, a fight here and there, some giggles , checking on each other from time to time , being able to read what the other doesn’t say often. You can check if there’s a gap here between you two.
You can be upfront and tell him if you need more of his time. His reaction to that will tell you a lot about it.
Haven't these posts asking for relationship advice on gv increased these days?
Anyway I will give a short comment on this, I believe you have already made a contradicting opinion about your relationship which you don't want to accept and now asking for validation of your opinion. Don't make your opinion based on someone's advice (although my comment in itself is an advice lol).
Talk to each other, clear your doubts face to face. It's better to talk things out rather than making assumption of someone's actions or behaviour it will eat you from inside. The more you talk the more things will become clear.
Here is poem I read a while back
"Never sow a seed of doubt, For it may grow into a tree. The negative thoughts will bloom, And they will not let you be."
Your ctc?
What do you expect to learn from this? What would be an answer that you wish to read here? Do you wanna know of a reason which justifies his actions or justifies your instincts?