Roka Ceremony rituals in Punjabi families
Hi everyone.
Any fellow north indians here? Preferably from Punjab or around?
I really like a boy and our families have met each other. We are planning for a roka ceremony to take a step further.
I would like to know from someone recently married what the ceremony was like? What all gifts are given to the boy's family? And is it that one time the girl's family will go to the boy's and on another day vice versa?
The boy's mom asked for 9 sets of clothes. Is it usual to give these many sets in a roka ceremony?
Can someone give me a full picture of what happens and is expected?
Here’s what usually happens: Families meet – Both sides come together, usually at the bride’s home or a small venue. It’s warm, intimate, and full of excitement. Tilak / Tikka – The bride’s family puts a tilak on the groom’s forehead as a way of welcoming him and wishing him good luck. Exchange of gifts (Shagun) – Both families exchange sweets, dry fruits, clothes, and sometimes jewelry or cash. The groom’s family usually gives a special outfit or jewelry to the bride. Prayer – In Sikh families, an ardaas (prayer) is done, and in Hindu Punjabi families, a small puja may take place to seek blessings. Roka thali & chunni – A decorated plate with sweets and gifts is presented. Sometimes, the bride is draped with a chunni (dupatta) from the groom’s family as a sign of acceptance. Blessings & celebration – Elders bless the couple, and the families share sweets, food, and often break into music and dance. Official announcement – After this, the relationship is considered fixed, and the families may even discuss dates for the engagement or wedding.
Thank you.
But in terms of clothes, is it mandatory to give them? I feel 9 sets is a bit much for roka. Clothes and gifts will anyways be exchanged during Shagun
