Relationships now are driven not by dreamy love stories but calculated decision making.
So many people seem to be focusing on “Is this as good as other people have it” than “Is this good enough for me to be happy”.
And the problem is this “Seemingly Ideal Relationship” propaganda fudging the boundaries b/w “bare minimum” vs “unrealistic expectation”.
TBH, I don’t blame women at all. The societal stigma around “settling for anything less than SRK” is so high right now, If I were a woman, I would give in too!
PS: I hope this market too is up for some correction.
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The sooner you get out of this knot, the sooner you win. It isn't worth the mental stress. Forget societal stigma, what society are you part of? The entire current generation lives in social media with fake facade. Nobody judges you in real life.
I agree with your second paragraph. It is very difficult to understand if our expectations are unrealistic.
But marriage (arrange particularly) has always been practical. My mom tells that in villages, girl’s family enquires on how much land the guy’s family holds, how many cows/cattle etc. Because a girl goes to another family, and every parents of girl child hope and expect that she should go to a family where she doesn’t lack anything and is happy.
The dilemma comes if girl’s or her family’s expectations are unrealistic. I personally have seen girls earning some 5 lacs dreaming/aiming to settle with a guy with 50 lacs package. All this just doesn’t stop and it only leads to delay in marriage where huge compromises have to be made.
You are saying it takes more pressure for women to settle for less than SRK. However real concern is, It is 100X difficult to become SRK for men and 1000X difficult to end up not being SRK, with everyone expecting that if you are tortured enough you can be turned into SRK after 30.
Lol!
I did not expect the comments to get so toxic so soon. I really was hoping on people’s opinion on how women too have to live through this subtle pressure.
This is how the world worked since the beginning of time. Women always choose security first.
It always happened openly. People lowered expectations when the initial responses didn't work well.
People never lower expectations now. The reason for that is IVF. It's has extended shelf life of starting a family to mid 30s. With extra time is hand, they think they have more negotiation power.
We now hear the " career driven", independent thinker", all such nonsense.