Relationship advice
So I've never been in a relationship. During my college days, I was really attached to someone and liked him a lot. We were together for about a year. Not relationship together - but it's like when you're close to someone but not given a relationship tag yet. But after one year, I got to know that he was talking to his ex girlfriend and then he left me giving some reasons. I was devastated. Since then, I used to keep pushing men away. Whenever someone tried to come close to me, I kept on pushing them. And that's how I've never been in a relationship. And now that I wish to be in a relationship, every guy around me is either already married or about to get married. I'm 25 Not sure what needs to be done now.
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I can understand why you did what you did. Not sure what advice you are looking for though. If grapevine is the place you are looking to find someone, why not put yourself out here on who you are and what kind of person you are searching. Hopefully someone would come up along the way? Your username here is letsconnect. Why not embrace that and look beyond the married people in your vicinity?
If you are looking at more advice on what to do(not in terms of grapevine), put yourself out in real world. There are many ways -
- Dating apps If that's what you believe in or works for you
- Common hobbies / passions
- Work (though not recommended to do so)
- Friends of friends
- House parties (if you are into that)
If you wait for the universe to send someone out to you, I know I have done that, it doesn't really work that way. I am not saying wherever you go you go with intention of meeting someone for relationship, but I am saying, widen your horizon of people you know and maybe you find someone with whom you wanna take it forward with?
Absolutely appreciate your insights here. And yes I would usually follow this approach and wait for the universe to send someone, but I can see how it doesn't work this way. Will start meeting new people and let's see how things go further.
Thanks.
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Wishing you the best!
It’s a very similar story to mine. I’ve loved someone but then idk whether she loved me back or not, cuz we talked through social media after the school finished (of course we got disconnected for higher studies). I was in love with her since school days. 2 yrs ago she left me as in she blocked me and after that I also stopped looking for anyone. I just don’t have the energy to put lot of efforts and all again. I’m just done with all this things.
put yourself out, attend more events, travel more, meet as many people as people
this way you grow yourself and hopefully you will click with someone
Stop waiting for universe to send you someone.
Option a: try hard, date several guys, get heart broken a few times, build strength everytime all alone and move on. That's what most people are meant for.
Option 2: keep waiting, be passionate and crazy. Invest in yourself and learn to be happy alone.
There are no other options.
Interesting, okay.
