Rejections feel too personal
How do you guys handle the rejections in the interview after giving all the efforts and all the motivation/excitement you had for that company?
I'm getting rejected in the interviews, and it feels too personal that i keep thinking, why am i not good enough job or what is wrong with me that i don't deserve this job.
Please share how you handle such situations and move on from these experiences 🙏
Most of the times they're picking people who want less salary than you, not necessarily because they're better than you.
Just business, nothing personal. Shouldn't take it personally either.
My personal experience has been that initial few interviews suck and make me feel horrible and like a total noob. And I use that feeling to prepare more and in depth. And I know when its my day, even with shitty interview I will be selected.
One way to look at it is to tell yourself that its their loss if they reject you as the are missing out on awesome developer.
"its their loss if they reject you" Man, i had exact this thought but personally for me, it backfires.
The reason is, all my managers (current, ex) including the skip level manager, has always told me in my review meetings that i working exceptionally well and have always praised me as a good engineer. After hearing such words from them and the getting rejected like nothing, creates more self doubts for me like if all those feedbacks was just lie and in reality i should just lower my expectations and settle with it.
Btw, Thank you for sharing your experience.
Honestly, if you're getting hung up over rejection during interviews, I feel like you aren't interviewing enough. This is true with anything in life. Good things don't come easy, and anything that's easy, is rarely ever good.
Because you can’t let go of it internally. I have the equation for other things but when it comes to interviews I feel nothing honestly. Nothing more than a ‘meh’
Because
- I know Im capable (not the cocky kind of confidence but actual belief on my abilities)
- 99.99% things arent in my control ( e.g. sometimes a perfect candidate is let go because of biz decisions, etc etc)
- Aj nahi toh kal :)
World runs on hope!
