SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala

Regret going on a date with a Haryanvi girl šŸ‘«šŸ» ...

Last Friday I went on a date with a girl from Gurgaon and it was the biggest mistake of my life. I was apprehended by her brother's friend at Ambience Mall. How? We were having a milkshake from Keventer's where some guy randomly pops out and starts enquiring about what we were doing.

The thing escalated and he said he will call police. I got scared. Then he motioned for someone, and that guy started misbehaving with us as well. It was becoming very stressful and I asked , "Tum chahte kya ho?" He was like, "Mhaare doston ko bhi thoda Milkshake Wilkshake pilao bhai." (Get milkshakes from KLeventers for our friends too). I was like, "Huh?" He demanded cash and said that he will get it himself. I gave them all cash I was carrying, some 2500 rupees and ran away. I think the girl was in on it too.

What should I have done?

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BubblyMarshmallow
BubblyMarshmallow
IBM10mo

Did she even said sorry for all of this stupid drama , if no yes she was a part of this , if you met her through dating app please report it and drop even mail .

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

This ^

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala
EY10mo

@KyaPtaKyaChalRaha She did say sorry. But not long before blocking me.

QuirkyPretzel
QuirkyPretzel

I don't think you could have done anything different.

But consider this as a narrow escape and from the next time please be extra careful when going on a date.

TwirlyPotato
TwirlyPotato

Issn't a mall, a public place, perfect for first dates? Just curious because even I prefer going to a mall.

QuirkyPretzel
QuirkyPretzel

Yes that's a good place in general but unfortunately there's always a Tom and Jerry type chase between scamsters and victims.

Day by day they are getting advanced so anyone would have to proceed more carefully.

In his case next time, he can probably have his friends nearby or he can focus more on some potentially suspicious things about his date partner profile and behaviour which he might have ignored this time by giving a benefit of doubt.

GroovyBoba
GroovyBoba

What should I have done?

You ran You did the right thing. As a reward here is your free hoodie-

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SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala
EY10mo

@Elon_Musk Thank you Musk sahab

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

I would say- refuse to give them what they ask. You have done nothing wrong. Even if police comes, what can they do? You are in middle of a crowded place, they can’t harm you.

When we submit to the likes of these scamsters, we encourage them to keep dothings like this.

It was a safe setting for you to simply refuse and complain the nearby mall security.

FluffyBiscuit
FluffyBiscuit

Yeah. This. I don't understand why others are saying cash deke sahi kia.

BubblyMarshmallow
BubblyMarshmallow
Student10mo

That works if you have multiple people around you who know you.

Otherwise they'll just file a case alleging you outraged her modesty.

SnoozyJellybean
SnoozyJellybean

Bhai inki gend mein hath dedeta…you should’ve said ki call the police. This is molestation, you didn’t forced the girl to come with you and you and her are both mature enough to take decisions. Bro never get afraid of such fraudsters.

JazzyUnicorn
JazzyUnicorn
HCL10mo

What if girl was a part of this too. Or she gets scared that this thing would escalate and she would switch sides. And then you know how laws in India are...
In OP's case, he just got scammed..

SnoozyJellybean
SnoozyJellybean

Bro…buddy must have records with him..like chats. That’s enough to prove that she was not forced to come with him. It was her own will See brother….these people consume only those who get afraid easily and surrender themselves and run. If you’ve not done anything wrong you should not fear any living entity on this earth. It’s your confidence and your believe which make these people weak else they’ll eat you whole easily.

JazzyPotato
JazzyPotato

Sorry for your bad experience, I am also from Haryana

The best you could or can do in future, have proofs -call/messages that you and the girl are meeting with your own will

Call the police and tell them the truth, meeting a girl online and dating her is not a crime, you can make a complaint in this situation against that guy for harrassing or bullying you

Even if the girl is in the game, you are still safe because of proofs of messages/calls of mutual consent

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala
EY10mo

@Cosmicsachin I agree but as someone who lives with his parents I dont want them to feel I do these things

QuirkyPretzel
QuirkyPretzel

Call the police! šŸ˜µā€šŸ’«, well first thing not to forget the police will be also from haryana. They first look for there share šŸ˜‚ and then they'll abuse you insult you and probaly slap you, saying chori ka matter hai, lamba andar jayega, baap ko bula and all that same thing. Such matters are sensitive mostly dosent work in male favor. 😢

TwirlyWalrus
TwirlyWalrus

Welcome to Haryana. People are like that here. But what you faced was a scam. Do not engage with the locals speaking in Haryanvi especially. They have no morals or respect for their peers. Been living here for 20 years and still I haven't seen a soul having basic decency here. I have seen people fighting for like 500 rupees, seen people betraying their friends, people fighting for family properties and indecent shopkeepers who don't respect their customers. Some would argue that it is just their accent. No, it is not just their accent, it is their culture of greed that runs in their families. There might have been a few exceptions but I havent seen any yet.

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala
EY10mo

Haryanvi dudes are literally the worst. They are known for causing car accidents on Golf Course roads and killing someone every week.

SleepyPanda
SleepyPanda

This is so racist. I am a haryanavi and spent years in Bangalore and then back home. I would never say that blanket statement if I encounter an aggressive Marathi / Kannadiga / Tamil individual. It is that specific individual who is probably good/bad. He/she doesn't represent the entire state.

JazzyUnicorn
JazzyUnicorn
HCL10mo

Did you meet her via dating app?

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala
EY10mo

@BugHunter Yes. Tinder

JazzyUnicorn
JazzyUnicorn
HCL10mo

Damn! I have read about tinder date scams in reddit.. usually used to happen in Delhi. But they literally just asked for a milkshake šŸ˜‚

DancingBoba
DancingBoba

Bhai Haryana Delhi wali bakchodi nahi hai ye, scammer toh scammer hai. Milne se pehle baat vaat nahi karte? Kuch background check ni kia? Never have fell into sucha awkward situation. Ab wo baat alag hai, you felt horny and gave in to her shitty honey trap techniques - something I'm always able to flag, avoid and abuse the shit outta her before getting blocked!

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala
EY10mo

@figuringoutshit No bro. These Haryanvi folks are known gangsters and scammers. Gunda raaj

DancingBoba
DancingBoba

Bhai I know but the actual gangsters and gunda raj people don't allow their girls to go out even to study, forget being on dating apps and meeting random guys. She was a scammer, nothing else. Delhi has many too! Dating apps are a shit place now because you've always have to keep your guard up for weeks even if the other person is genuinely nice and you have fallen for them already.

FuzzyNoodle
FuzzyNoodle

Babu Bhaiya Kaafi Saste me Nipat gye and now you can realize how things can worse but you are Lucky!

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala
EY10mo

@Sangharshi Exactly I ran like hell

FuzzyNoodle
FuzzyNoodle

So Happy for you bro

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