Heard an old lady calling her “average doing son” - Raja Beta And treating her “associate partner in a consulting firm” daughter- badly only because she is a girl and according to her she won’t support her mother in her old age
Why are Indian mothers obsessed with “Raja Beta” even when the beta is good for nothing?
Curious to know why you didn't mention the designation of the Raja Beta here. And what makes you think the son is a good for nothing? And since she is an old lady she is most likely wired in a way that she considers her son to be her biggest asset. And it is the son who will most likely take care of her, provide, and protect till she dies. Even if the daughter wishes to, she may or may not be allowed by her husband or in-laws. So, it's still a gamble.
Indian parents in general are selfish creatures. They bring a life into this world purely with the intention of having someone who will take care of them when they are old, or to carry forward the family wealth. Now if she demeans her son at every given opportunity the fragile male ego can probably even kick her out of the house someday or stop caring for her since she will become a burden because she anyway doesn't respect his efforts. Would she risk it? I doubt.
Even if we accept this reasoning, she has no right to demean her daughter.
Daughters can get traumatized for life witnessing such things in their homes
I have been seeing some good perspective on most of the post @Walt. Appreciate your thought process👏
Maybe the son sacrificed a better job to help the family. May be the daughter is a feminist who thinks her money is "her" money and other's money is family money. May be the mother has the best interest of her daughter in her mind. She doesnt want to insult the future son in law by asking him to become a ghar jamai. May be the mother knows the daughter building her own nest is the best thing for her.
We dont know.
"Average doing" is not a measurement. My best friend is from IIT madras, he today today works in Infy for a 24L salary. His life is nothing but a collection of bad luck. Shit happens.
So many things wrong with this comment.
Misandry has been normalised to such an extent that even a benefit of doubt is not given.
Nonsensical feminist post.. and even more nonsensical to argue on this.
Internalized misogyny 😪
It's her choice
Good question 😂😂, would like to put it in easiest way possible Men are not allowed to be weak. Hence they are dependable. Specifically for your question about mother daughter and son, it's just her own perspective developed based on her life experience, she went to other family leaving parents behind, new responsibilities whereas their brother must have helped their parents, in old age they want to live without drama so that's why they are expecting their son will be the only person to reach out. Yes they can reach out to daughter also but she might have seen some consequences so that why she wanted to avoid that aspect and let her daughter live in peace. Don't easily generalize everything, single house paint can change the happiness of a family there are many parameters to be considered when talking about these matters.
A father wouldn't have done this. Attention, Fame & respect are becoming more important to women nowadays than their family. Though this is an extreme case, gone are the hearts of our mothers. No comparison.
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