Question for Millennials
This question is more for Millennials than gen-Zs here (assuming they are in an early life stage to want/ have kids).
P.S. Mid 30s, married for a couple of years and happy being child free. Want to know if people resonate with me.
I feel like once you have kids, your life starts to completely revolve around them and you stop living for yourself For me, I feel like now that I have finally started to live my life on my own terms after wasting my 20s, I am scared to lose that. But at the same time I have heard people around say that once you have lived a considerable amount of time in your own way, you will start to feel like you should have had kids but then it would too late. It's so hard to predict what I will feel after a decade and what if others are right and I will regret it? So yeah, don't know.
Marry and have kids. Conventional wisdom is the best. Every society that revolted against conventional wisdom suffers from mental breakdown.
It's not about revolting necessarily. A lot of people don't feel like their fulfillment comes from kids, rather it comes from the way they live their own life on their own terms.
Being judgemental here. This childfree culture is nothing to feel cool about. You may say, "Yeah, I don't care about society or propagating my family culture. Heck, it's an individual choice." Sure, it's an individual choice, but not without consequences. You can't "buy" old age care. Your pension schemes will go bust due to plummeting TFR. Obviously nobody is ok with such consequences. So, everybody take the responsibility of propagating your genes and stop peddling the fad like "overpopulation, climate change". Nobody can predict even if it's going to rain well this year.
You realize not everyone is a selfish dork and a climate denier who only cares who will feed me when I'm 80?
How the f is it my mistake if there is no ever increasing population to pay the interest on my pension?
The system is broken.
Having kids just to keep this broken system going is stupid imo.
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You do understand that you really don't need to reproduce to nurture a child right ? You can always adopt ! 🙂 But do it only if you want really nurture a human being out of your truest parental instincts, unlike the boomer uncle giving gyaan above (@Tempo)
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I would love to know gender diversity of this poll. We live in a progressive society and nowadays both father and mother share equal responsibility in parenthood. But being pregnant is a huge deal for a woman. The body changes, complications are endless. I know a lot of working woman friends who just don’t want to go through those changes and some are happy to adopt.
True. That's why we see some people saying that ajkal ki ladkiyon ko bachhe nahi paide karne to vansh aage kese badhega humari generation me nahi hota tha esa. Yeah bcz that generation women had little to no choice. They were just made to follow the rules but now when women take a stand they have a problem.
Disclosure:
I'm the OP and I'm a woman in mid 30s, with a good career, almost married for a decade and happy being child free !
My reason for not having kids yet - None ! Just that me (and my husband) never felt that nurturing a life was our need, didn't feel that we needed another human being in our lives.
Though I love kids but just can't imagine myself taking their responsibilities.
I'm not scared of the regret or FOMO that a lot of people talk about "may" feel in future and end up succumbing to the pressure and have kids, even though when they are not ready physically, financially or even mentally.
Yes, I do have a fare share of challenges when dealing with all the family/social/peer pressure too, but then we've learnt to deal with it !
After all, its no longer a social but a very personal choice to be a parent !
And i duly and equally respect all the people who are parents or would be in future.
So glad to see ~50% for no kids or contemplating. Life with kids is far more complicated than a generation earlier. The mental bandwidth (aparat from financial and physical) is not worth with the kind of gen z traits these kids have.
Also it is fairly easy to have a fulfilling life without kids today than a generation earlier where there was no point of life without kids. Personal view, no offence
Gen Alpha bhai. They decide what they want to do or watch.
