Question for married men👇
How do you manage to resolve conflicts between your mother and your wife?
Doesn't matter who is wrong, never correct your mother in front of your wife. God forbid refrain from scolding your mother. Always correct her in private with love & respect.
The art is to, identify conflicts before they occur and try to avoid them.
Keep both of them happy in their zone.
Any of the side taking L should feel like they are taking W. If One takes L next they should have W
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Never correct either of them in front of each other. In laws relationships are generally formal even if 2 people have grown to like each other.
In worst cases try to take the blame on yourself. Since they are connected through you, this helps in reducing the blowout of that situation from either side.
In the end, always try to explain the position to either of them if you feel they are being unreasonable but make sure to do that one on one. Helps in making them understand better and quicker. Ego sometimes plays a lot in these in-laws relationships, so the best way to handle it is to tackle them individually
Lastly, never overly react in favour or against either of them if it has a probability of disrespecting the other.
Don’t meddle at either side’s behest. There are some games in life, that you can only win by not playing my friend. Also, counsel both after the fight is over trying to strike a middle ground
Tell them everyone is going to die benstokes
Don’t have an answer but something that will help 3 of you -
Accept that conflict will be there
It is ok to have conflicts
When they come to you - just listen
( yeah if things go out of hand , then it is different, but most of them will resolve with time)
Give time to both of them
And 👍of luck
Live alone
Silence is power of excellence
