Hi , I am a Sr software engineer working in wipro. Recently I am so tensed because of marriage, I want to get married but I am not able to maintain a stable connection with someone. I am from a delhi and belongs to a middle class family , we have grown from not even having plaster on my house walls to having a 4 floor 50gaz own house in delhi. I have seen times when my sister's don't even have slippers to wear. And because I have come from so low I am very down to earth , I don't do drink or smoke or do drugs. I always care for my family and in my school time use to walk a km to save 10rs , from today when I am having 25lpa package.
I met a mumbai girl on shadi.com we talked for 7 months and it started with arguments to love and almost finalizing thing to time when she backout and said No. Now she is getting married somewhere and with me she had so many demands like I will not leave my friends , I will go party sometime , I will drink sometime and even though I don't do all these things ,I still asked her if she can do these in moderation I am fine but she never accepted anything, now today when she is getting married, she is getting married to a sub inspector 5 years elder to her. She didn't said a word to him and agreed for marriage. Now in my mind I was so stressed thinking if she could be so mindful of marriage then why she never said so in front of me when I asked and secondly if because of what happened between us , she became like this and killed her desires then I feel soo regret. Everyone I ask told me she was not the type of person I could handle she was very dominating, she expect things but when it comes to giving she says alot but never stick to her words. The best part in her was that she was very respectful to elders and helpful to even unknown. I asked her even basic basic things that will happen after marriage and her responses were fantastic but if I aske her to stop taking to her friends or if I don't like someone she just lost it and starts a fight. She lived in pg for her study in delhi few years back here she did everything, hukkah , smoke , alcohol , parties with very short dresses , and these parties were where she knows only few people and people were doing drugs and even threesome, if she was that senseable that like now she has given up on everything then why she didn't do it with me or if it was my fault that I have asked her and I should have belived that she will stop doing those things after marriage? I don't know if what happened was correct because of our choices or I should have given here more trust?
