ZestyQuokka
ZestyQuokka

People who have “given up” on dating and relationships. Why?

Got this question from Twitter/ X, but Grapevine is a better place for it

22mo ago
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QuirkyPickle
QuirkyPickle

Ladkiyo ka demand sunkar😥

GroovyBoba
GroovyBoba

Girls are like Bangalore landlords when it comes to dating due to the infinite supply of dudes. They can demand IIT/IIM, 50l package, gadi bangla and attention.

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

Don't forget 10th 12th marksheets yo

GoofyHamster
GoofyHamster
Swiggy22mo

Takes too much time to really build rapport and trust with an individual. Especially after coming out of a longish relationship, it feels too daunting to build up history with someone new all over again

WigglyMochi
WigglyMochi
PayTM22mo

This

ZestyQuokka
ZestyQuokka
Hinge22mo

I'll add mine too After an age, life has moulded into a definite shape. Allowing someone will invite more clashes. Protecting (whatever) peace we have.

JumpyPretzel
JumpyPretzel

You are talking as if you are already 35 yrs old.

ZestyQuokka
ZestyQuokka
Hinge22mo

😂 still time in that, but I have certain habits that even clashes with family.

MagicalBiscuit
MagicalBiscuit
Student22mo

Breakup happened in my 5yr relationship cuz her feelings died down If this can happen after 5 yrs, then what is the point of anything

FuzzyDonut
FuzzyDonut

+1

MagicalDumpling
MagicalDumpling

Did she end up with anyone else?

PerkyCupcake
PerkyCupcake

Have been on dating spree. Just not getting anyone who can match the vibe.

Dating apps are a sham. I’m going to optimize for the offline route now. It’s just weird to do anything offline these days

CosmicSushi
CosmicSushi

How will you optimise for offline?

PerkyCupcake
PerkyCupcake

Friends friend. Coffee shops. At work?

SqueakyPickle
SqueakyPickle
Plivo22mo

Yahan career aur job hai gaand lagi padi hai, dating kahan se karen. Ye BC kya paise dekh ke tech mai aa gaye, mechanical evergreen branch sahi thi 😂

SparklyBanana
SparklyBanana
Student22mo

Galat fehmi hai mere bhai

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

I seem to attract extroverts (because I'm mostly an introvert), but I can't have long term relationships with them.

Heart-broken a few times, broke a few hearts too. Don't want more of either.

Realised monogamy is difficult for me, but I'm not really into random hookups either because demisexual.

Choosing to be a hermit for now. Enough work on my plate.

SqueakyPickle
SqueakyPickle
Plivo22mo

Wait, do I know toh from CCI? What was your handle there? 😛

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

What is CCI?

SparklyKoala
SparklyKoala

Getting attached to someone, trusting them, investing so much energy, loving them so much only to receive none back, giving them so much support only to be alone when it's their turn, having so many expectations only to see them shattered, sacrificing time and your value for them just to see them turn into strangers? No, I would not be able to handle heartbreak. Also therapy is expensive

SqueakyPickle
SqueakyPickle
Plivo22mo

Therapy is indeed expensive

CosmicQuokka
CosmicQuokka

Had read the phrase in some old text. "नारी नारी ना कर बालक, नारी नर्क का द्वार।। खुश भी होगी तो क्या देगी, xx का द्वार।।"

It hadn't resonated that time, now after broken heart, have decided to not actively find dates.

WobblyHamster
WobblyHamster
CSM22mo

I believe the entire catch is in actively looking. When you obsessively seek out “love” or “women” to date you make obvious blunders. You loose your ability to say NO to the red flags (however small either talk it out or say NO, never let them slide by)

But once, you’re chill, you’re on your own journey and you have found your solace and happiness (aka hobbies, routine, fixed other close personal relationships- family, friends etc) then you can let another person in your A-Team (goes w/o saying other person should be sorted in the aforementioned manner).

You can foster love and relationship in chaos, you can cruise thru chaos if you have a strong relationship. But, you must foster that relationship when the waters are SUPER f##king CALM!

ZestyQuokka
ZestyQuokka
Hinge22mo

This!

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