First things first, I know that there are a lot of benefits living with parents: you save money, you don't give up on the luxury, etc.
But lately, especially looking at my older cousins and friends who never moved out and lived with strict parents, I feel like they've missed out on a lot. They're in their early 30s and never paid rent, always had a driver so never learnt how to drive, never understood how difficult it is to be an average taxpayer in this country.
Now. I would say that everyone has their own journey and some people will CHOOSE to live with parents to look after them, their health and have a sense of community. But speaking from personal experience, this only works if your parents are somewhat "liberal" and not strict in terms of you living your life the way you want to. You can't rebel every time because you're not a teenager anymore.
I'm curious to know what everyone thinks. Is moving out really worth it?
Yes Iam.
I live in a village, with my parents in my ancestral house. I don't have any siblings to take care of them.
But it's good. The house is in a 3 acre plot , most of which is artificially created forest.
Evenings , i play football with friends, or just casually sit there at the ground enjoying the sunset and gossiping .
Damnn sounds goooood
Yeah, had to live in a city with awful work-life balance and health issues to recognise that. In college, working in a place like Bangalore seemed like a dream. But realised touring the city is nothing like working there.
Saying purely basis Covid, I do wish I got to live with parents I know there are restrictions... around parties, drinking etc. But I question how important that is
I'd much rather spent as much time as I can, in the time I can
I know there are restrictions
Restrictions mean different things to different people.
For example, my father is so not liberal that when I get protein powder delivered through Amazon, he lectures me for spending money on "unwanted" things and that they never had to buy such things to lead a healthy life in their days. This is , in fact, after buying it with my money. And they're financially dependent on me.
I know I'm ranting. But that's the point I'm trying to make.
@ThanosIsRight couldn't agree more! I can't even go out for a stroll without telling where I'm going and for how long
Living with my parents..till I have wfh.. i save a lot and use saved money to travel🙂
I never stayed away from my parents actually, take it school, cllg or office. But I usually travel once in a month or two to different places and stay there for 10-15 days.
Me too! It's my first job and I WFH. Sadly I don't solo travel or travel with friends because I don't have any, lol
Nope, moved out in 2016 and can't live with my parents again. Love them like crazy though. Am a night owl and my parents just hate it. There's mostly the friction. Have an active social life and like hanging out with friends, gym, workshops etc. My parents idea of fun is relatives and temples. They get super confused and are very negative of me going to the gym for some reason. And we get into stupid fights like have a bath in the morning and not in the evening(after gym). I like my independence.
Agreed to this. Strict parents do not let you be you.
My younger brother couldn’t move out because my father wanted a kid @home. I understand your concern, just swap with your brother if you have or otherwise earn so much that for every quater, roam a new country’s state.
This hits hard more if you have less friends or busy friends.
Start by travelling in india via train, that is the foundation of understanding plight of leaving your home and moving away.
I agree. I'm just talking from a "growing up" perspective and having freedom to do what you want. If you're a female and you live in a city like delhi, you know what I'm talking about.
Hmm, I understand. I am also from there. Except from insecurity, i feel Delhi girls enjoy a lot, geeking out with friends. Damm, i was thinking why would a man in prime have a driver ? 😅
I recently moved back in with my parents after putting in my papers. I save a bunch on rent but pay it with my mental health instead.
As someone who never spent a night outside the house for the first 22 years of my life, getting my own place did me wonders. You learn a lot about yourself. Self-reflection and loneliness don't go easy.
If you're dealing with stubborn parents who can't respect boundaries and can afford it, leave! Even if you're in the same city. It's better for everyone involved
I’m saving > 12L in tax every because I live with my parents
I've moved out and lived for a year + 3 years of college. And I have lived at home (wfh) for a year as well. Personally, I prefer living by myself even though I get lonely more often than I'd like. Situations at home are not always great. Essentially you're setting a price for your freedom (the rent), and it's up to you whether you're willing to pay it.
Paying for freedom. Sounds like a trap lol but I'll be happy to do so lmao
It's fully worth it. Imho, you must have your freedom sooner than later, since it's one life, you know. Assuming you'll manage the financial part when you are alone, you can enjoy what freedom feels like for a few years, and later you can always work out a visit home now n then kinda plan which gives both you and your parents lil time together, but at the same time you have your main primary independent life. If you share a non toxic relationship with your parents, then you can do the balancing act sooner rather than later. I mean life situations and events will obviously differ person to person, but i don't think ANYONE must miss having atleast some kind of independent free life.
Go live with your parents for some time atleast, before you start regretting not doing it
Only works well if you have a good relationship with family. Unfortunately, not everyone does.
I'm 26 and still living with my parents. I help out at home and work whenever I can. Rent is too high right now, so it'll be a few years before I can move out. It feels more common these days. What do you think, what should I do?
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