SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala

Partner isn’t isn’t inclined towards growth

I am someone who considers professional compatibility in a relationship a lot, if we’re not driving each other for raising the bar or constantly trying to get better at things then it’s not going to cut out for me.

My partner is someone who’s really kind and sweet, there are a both good and bad, but I consider these as basic companionship qualities one should have. I appreciate them a lot nonetheless.

Now here I’m failing to see us going forward as I don’t see her trying or giving her bare minimum for her growth or career. It’s been long since she’s trying for a job and I’ve tried supporting as as much is could, but it doesn’t work. She does for a while, then stops, it’s just a loop to nowhere.

I want to put most of my time in building or learning together, but I’m not getting that space or support.

I’ve talked to her and expecting a change is a big ask.

This might sounding very stoic or apathetic, but I’m not sure what to do here.

We both are 24yo fyi.

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TwirlyDumpling
TwirlyDumpling

She might be facing mild depression. Check with her once if anything is stressing her out.

BubblyCupcake
BubblyCupcake

Yes going On a small vacation and talking to her will Definitely help.

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala

She could be, I’ve been supportive of her for months, no pressure, do things at her own pace.

I don’t know how else I can help her, I’m lost.

She doesn’t feel good about it either. I’ve talked

QuirkyQuokka
QuirkyQuokka

Exit ASAP. After marriage she will definitely turn completely cold after she has secured her future as a parasite. You would badly suffer and end prematurely.

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala

Damn that’s cold, thanks tho

BubblyCupcake
BubblyCupcake

Have you tried talking to her ? Have u asked if she is interested in something else? Anything else like starting something on her own?

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala

Yes, she is pursuing her interest completely different from her major

WigglyPanda
WigglyPanda

If not married, good for you

SwirlyKoala
SwirlyKoala

No lol

BubblyCupcake
BubblyCupcake

She could be and she is in are two different things a therapist might help.

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