Parents are not talking to me from past 2 months
My parents have not been talking to me for the past two months. They have been searching for a girl for my marriage for the last 1.5 years. Recently, they found a girl who is a government teacher. However, I refused the proposal because I did not feel attracted to her, and I also felt that our backgrounds and compatibility might not match. She completed her education through an open college in Bihar and comes from a rural background. On the other hand, I have completed my BCA and MCA and have been working in IT for the past four years. However, I am still not financially stable and feel stuck in a production support role since the beginning of my career. This is my first company. I am currently in a relationship. My girlfriend and I both work in IT and earn almost the same package (around 6 LPA). We both want to get married, but her parents rejected me because of my salary. Earlier, her parents had arranged her engagement with a person earning around 20 LPA, but she broke it off within 15–20 days, her engagement is now officially cancelled and we are still together. Her parents have already rejected me based on my salary. I am feeling confused and under pressure from all sides. I am not sure what the right decision is or how to handle this situation. I am also unable to concentrate properly on upgrading my skills and preparing for a job switch
Okay bro, listen things are in your favour.
- You are rejected based on "salary".(BY HER PARENTS)
- She chose you over money, any sane girl would have gone with 20lpa guy, and told you the reason of family pressure!
- What she did was her best shot so that she could spare you some time to prove yourself!
- Now the ball is in your court- a) Go off the grapevine, dm as many managers and HR's you can for a support job. You can easily get 10-12lpa. You need to be shamelessly applying for job, one offer is going to get you the best girl you would ever have. Once you get offer letter, shamelessly go to her parents and show them that today you got offer of 10 lpa, in some years I would crack bigger one, just play emotional card, tell them you will keep their daughter happy. Keep aside ego for now, she has broken her engagement, and its your time to act. b) Lets say you are not able to gain offer quickly, now you have no option but to go to her parents tell them that you are trying hard to get new offer, just give some time, possibly play smart... Convince someone close to your gf on your side, eg: her sister/brother or mother, or someone from her family with whom she is close too, so then it would be bit easier for you to make her family give you atleast some chance.
If you give your best, you will definitely get her! But if you don't get her, then that might not be your best, let her be happy with someone else whose best efforts are better than yours!
======== She believed in you bro, just go and give your best for her.
P.S: Notify back once you two get married! Best luck!
I will try my best brother. Thankyou so much for explaining these things in details
Why did she agree and did the engagement, did she really break the engagement for you or was the reason something else ?
Anyways, try breaking the ice with your parents first and inform them about your girlfriend.
Ask your gf to buy some time from her parents so you can search for a high paying job
interesting… 4 yrs only, so you can easily take 2-3 yrs more for marriage. Only thing that, your girl too needs to stand her ground
Trust me you are lucky😂… most of the girls are Gdiggers!!! I knw bcs i live in Bnglr … if ur girl is choosing u over money. Then ur responsibility is to work ur a** off … switch and get 15-20lpa … do dsa or lld hld what ever you want … and switch… don’t let her down😂. Karle bhai!!! Aissi ladki nahi milegi do bara… if you do arrange marriage, mostly chutiya katne wali hai… raat mai so maat, remove all useless application. Ask her to prepare with you …
Jake padhai karo aur switch maro.. yaha rr se kuchh nahi hoga
Bro you have 2- 3 years more, just one switch can make your life better. This 2- 3 years will also help you to understand whether your relationship last or not ,if it last then you got a good partner. I know things are not easy, but focus on your career now only for next2- 3 years and once you get good package, your girls parent will accept you as well.
