Parents and relatives putting immense pressure on me to get married
26(M) here. Ever since I started working, there has been pressure on me to get married, but it has increased significantly now. My family and relatives are emotionally blackmailing me because of my father’s poor health. I do want to get married in the future, but I have never been in a relationship, and just the thought of marriage scares me. I simply don’t feel ready. Many people tell me that it becomes extremely difficult to find a match in an arranged marriage setup as time goes on. I also feel that I may never truly feel “ready.” I feel extremely pressured, and whenever I visit home, I become anxious. It’s all very overwhelming. I just want to understand how to deal with these emotions especially from people of my own age group. This may seem like a small issue to others, but for someone like me who gets anxious easily, it is causing a lot of stress.
Are you gay or what? I wasn't in a relationship before my marriage too and I was also shy and nervous around girls and about marriage too. But one thing always remained constant since I was 14 years old. Attraction for girls and love for one special one. If you haven't felt this till 26 then you must be gay, consult a doctor maybe.
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Your parents or the relatives ain't gonna help if you get problems in your marriage life. Better be lonely than end up depressed. Wait until you're confident on yourself to get married.
Because every problem you face today, if you get married, you'll face the same problem with a wife and a kid, and nobody will help you
In arranged marriage setup your age matters to a little extent. Its the time in the market that counts. I have a theory - In arranged marriage there is a shelf time. In 6 months if a person doesnt get married, the odds of getting married goes down by the day. If a person doesnt get married within 1 year, that means the person has already crossed his/her prospective candidate in search of something better. Meaning, there is lillte/no chance of marrying someone "new" or meeting/reaching out for the first time. The odds of getting married is only possible with someone whom one of the party had "rejected" earlier.
Ofcourse this theory is not valid if there is radical change in the minimum standards. say the man found a job abroad, or qualified UPSC etc.., for women who lost weight or somehow became more beautiful as she aged...
This is my theory from what i see with my friends /office circle...
Damn..
Same situation. I am 26 and a woman, so y'all can imagine how much everyone is pressurising me to get married. My parents are quite chill though. They don't want me to choose a bad man but they still want me to get married.
I've clearly told them that I don't plan on getting married because this religious and traditional marriage is not for me , I will go crazy if someone expects me to do all those sexist things in name of traditions.
I come from a well settled family and have seen a few guys. at first they pretend to be progressive but the more I talk to them, the more I realise that they are just faking it. My clear deal breaker is having boundaries with in-laws and not ever living with them, neither do I expect the man to live with mine. It's not easy to find a normal man in this country. But my parents keep on thinking that I might change my mind and marry (the mysogynistic men), which will not happen.
The problem is not marriage pressure. The problem is mentioned in the last line of your post. That you get anxious easily. Work on that.
Else we will be sitting in GV helping you get over anxiety in job change, anxiety in taking home loan, anxiety in raising kids, anxiety in retiring.
Wfo in a different city , live alone, make some friends in both genders. People will not stop. So you do your own thing.
Relatives don't care about shit, they just get kick , some fun and long term fresh gossip with every marriage.
You being in a relationship has near zero significance in marriage. Marriage is 75% luck and 25% smartness. You get a good person, you thrive else god is helpless.
But isn't a relationship required before getting married? I know arranged marriage exists but what if someone doesn't like the stranger they married soon after a month? Divorce is an even bigger taboo
Having a relationship doesn't make you a master to judge a person instantly.
Yes you may identify a few red and green flags but then you see too many things that you miss on some nice genuine people and end up with fake artists.
That's why it's luck 🤞
