Open to genuine thoughts/solutions on self love
I have the capacity to love someone, take care of them, be everything to them (as long as they speak nicely to me and do not divide their time,attention and efforts with any other person) But when it comes to me I cannot love myself to that point. I am not dating anyone atm, nor want to because for once and all I want to “get into zone of loving myself enough that I don’t need external love”
Has anyone figured the way to love yourself enough that there is no NEED (rather DESIRE) for your companion/partner.
Talking product sense with Ridhi
9 min AI interview5 questions
Desire for someone else would remain. But hold that thought…
Loving yourself is only through knowing yourself. Knowing yourself is difficult but you can try these methods - journaling (introspection), travelling solo (once you’re comfortable), reading books - making friends with people from the past, saying no to things that do not make sense to you even if others swear by it, understanding aloneness vs loneliness, etc.
Sit with yourself. Make a space of non judgement and non reaction within. Express yourself loudly within until the screams are heard outside.
… Desire for someone else will remain. It’s a bodily tendency to want someone of the opposite gender or same. It isn’t you or your identify. You will learn to not identify with every desire of your body. You will learn to not make any person (someone dear or not) a central part of your life. You will need to fill the center with something huge.
I can go on more but I’ve already spoken more than I should, can take questions