Nurse prospect in marriage?
Hey guys, I got this good prospect for marriage. I have known her for 4 months. She is a nurse at AIIMS. I like her personality and nature.
But these is some stigma against nurse, mainly of cheating with doctors etc etc. I just can't shake this weird feeling because of this stigma. I know we should not judge a person for their person. But i can't help it🥲. I atleast have to be careful right?
I for sure know i won't marry anyone from airline industry. But in medical i have a soft spot. But in medical people cheat often. So i have to be careful and judge the person carefully, if they have good morals or not.
Am i wrong to think like this? Gosh i feel bad
Don't marry her.
You already have a negative attitude towards her profession. (Justified or not is secondary. Self-justification is difficult to convince otherwise)
Even if she's faithful, you'll keep doubting her. (You've made it clear in your earlier posts that you can't deal with a woman who has a "past", and you're already worrying about the future.)
Then you'll ask her to leave AIIMs and work at a clinic near your home so it's "convenient" with no "night duties".
Ahhh, so you like to keep track of me.
When have i mentioned that i can't deal with a women with a past?
I said past is one of the top things people should watch out for. You just keep twisting my words.
And what's wrong with worrying about my future? Everyone worries about it, especially women. They look at career, salary etc thinking about the future.
You seem one of those toxic feminist, who voices for equality when its convenient to you.
And you just keep on making scenarios thar i will ask her to leave aiims etc etc What is wrong with you?
Can't you handle when a man looks out for himself? Os is this just reserved for women?
I think you are looking at wrong aspect of her job, if you talk like that, even in IT industry many folks have extra-marital affairs. I don’t think there is any proven research on which field sees more affairs.
But only factor with nursing profession jobs is, the work timing, the work area etc, may vary a lot. The same stands true for Doctor and Pilots/AirHostesses too, or for any job which has no fixed pattern.
Also, why are you spending 4 months on this thought? (unless you are in 25 yr aged or so, so lots of time to waste). This should have been decided within 1-2 weeks of connecting, or even prior. You are wasting both your and her time, by spending 4 months and still not clear about it
Be honest with each other. Have THE talk with her and sort it out. People will bring their personal bias in picture here and question you for asking stuff they are comfortable(not have a problem) with.
Suno sab ki, kqro apne man ki :)
I can see this. People have started gaslighting me.
When girls ask proof for salary then everyone is like, its her right. And when i get confused regarding then then i become a devil. Ufff
You work at coinbase. Why the hell you want to marry a nurse?? You’re making us all look bad.
Bro, i go after the personality.
I have nothing against a nurse, i respect medical field.
My friends have told me to be careful because of the stigma of cheating in medical.
That's it.
I really like her, her nature, her personality.
But i have to think from my brain also
Please look for someone earning similar to your pay This will safeguard your future
Don't marry her.
Not because all nurses are that way, there are some women who have very clean character and boundaries for others, boundaries that define how much interaction is allowed and how much is not, women with standards and self-respect who chose nurse as a career. I know such women.
But I am telling you not to marry her because you already have this in your mind and even if she's not doing something wrong, this will be in the back of your mind and you may not have that level of trust on her, this will be hurtful for both of you.
It is better to avoid it entirely!
Bro, its in the back of my mind mainly because i don't know her properly. So i am a bit carefuly.
But over these past 4 months i came to know a lot about her.
She has boundaries and has standards.
I think this thought has gone away, of this stigma.
I really like her and she also likes me.
I am like 95% sure that she will be a great life partner for me.
But how to make it 95 to 100%.
Or is it just not possible?🥲
I know people from IT also cheats. Its not about the profession, its about the person.
I am just scared of what if i am wrong in my judgement. People can pretend for 4 months.
We plan to spend 4 more months knowing about each other, and after that we will decide
Knowing her for 4 months,if you think she can be trusted go for it AND if you think what if she cheats tomorrow or she does this/that, leave her and look for next one
Yes, she can be trusted. This i am sure of.
My mind is 95% set on her.
Then go fwd with it with
1.clearing your mind of any doubts 8f you had about her
2. No unnecessary doubts in the future with regards to her profession.
Because of you start doing so it will euok your lyf
4 months is very less to know anyone. You'll see only made up personality
I guess so. I will give it some more time. The thing what worries me is that i don't like to engage with multiple prospect at one time.
And if this doesn't work out, i will feel that i have wasted 6 months. I will hope for the best, let's see
Actually 3 months of consistent interaction is enough.
There is a stigma attached with it folks as well. Aise stigma dekhne lag gaye to bas ho gayi shaadi
Bhai app lo arranged m risk. I have time on my hand, so i will be careful with my decision
Arranged ho ya love.. risk to dono me hai. not sure what was your intent when you put this question- "Am i wrong to think like this". Baaki your life and kismat. Wish u well
