
Not feeling good even things are going in right direction as per external audience
Hi All, It's been 2.5 years since I finished college. Working as Data Scientist. Now, if an external person is looking me, for him/her, it's all perfect. JEE, engg, good firm, good work, good pay, tier 1 city. But I am not feeling happy for things going around me.
First is cuz of relationship. We were in LDR of nearly 3 years. Now, after her PG gets over(in 1 month), she will head to Gurgaon. Now, when we started, I moved to BLR, then we had hope that she might get college in BLR(she didnt, it was in North). Then our hope was maybe post college, we will be living together. Now that's not gonna possible. My frustration is on fact that(nd not blaming her, but situation), I did all ticks, trusted each hope. And it still didn't materialized. It's like again JEE exam where you prepared well for subject but paper got out of box.
2nd is telling at home. We might be telling around mid-late 27. Our case is literal 2 state (North-South scenario). And it will be a bomb. I feel I'm just borrowing time, with each day bringing me close to that explosion. It will be just too messy.
3rd is in general of everyone living in tier 1 city. My UG was in non circuital branch. Could have gone for GATE and then job in a PSU (or in a manufacturing firm). Life in tier 2 city, slow, low cost of living, lower cost of education for kids. But here, flat, kids education skyrocketing. It's like we won't be having someing our own (it's will be borrowed, flat borrowed from bank, education from payroll). And the exposure people talk about in tier 1 city, how much one gets. max you'll travel is 1 month in a FY.
But I had that gaa*d me keeda that I am loving analytics. I should move into IT. And as per anyone external, it's good. But with everything written above, it feels that my love has just given me a dead end(whether it's general happiness, relationship or future). If choosing smthing I like is giving me dead ends, what's the point of going things from heart. Just live an average life. Everything will be sorted. Someone can say I'm overthinking. And you will be right. But analytics has gone in my ass, can't help myself.
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For 1 and 2.. you and your partner gotta be strong. I worked through a 6 yr long LDR, finally living together since past 5 yrs now. And on telling parents part, bro ours is a same sex relationship, just be truthful, show them how great your partner is. Chaos is imminent, no one can stop it, but you won't regret it a bit! If your parents don't accept or love you back for who you are, then, they always loved someone they thought was their kid, not their actual kid. Hang in there! Once you move in with your partner/ get married, you will get more clarity.

thanks! means a lot. hoping to get suggestions when needed

What about finding a job or WFH type job near her?
Bro it's not easy to find love...
If there is really that level of bonding... Why don't you try this?

The thing is, we both don't want to settle in Gurgaon. The point is of giving hope nd that not getting materialized. She will continue there for 1-1.5 year minimum. Hope ladder has escalated from engg days expectations

You're exactly where you're meant to be

Meant to be would hv been fine if I hadn't made any choice of my own. That's not case. Nd I feel like I've been fooled by my life choice.
Can feel it somewhere, ig evryone working in IT feels the same...
If not for everyone, atleast for some ig.. Ek mai b hu
Kash ghr hi hote..slow n chill life.. life here feels too fast.. months away from family, missing them, the high cost of living here. I wonder sometimes I would I manage it after marriage. Just praying for a good supporting partner 🤞🤞

Just hang in there bro...She was there when you were nothing. Trust me not everyone is fortunate to have that "GKK" 🦗🍑 😅😂😂 unlike you.

Would hv better got an anti-biotoc at right time

1 and 2, move near to her city like delhi ncr has hell lot of analytics role, especially elx
Parents agree nowadays, not melodramas
- U will figure out

Just accept it and move on

