Trending @Infosys; No friends, feeling little lost
I've been working here for the past 2.5 years. Being an introvert, I always focused on my work and never really thought of the office as a place to make friends.
Recently, it hit me that I'm quite alone at the office – no teammates to talk to, nobody to play with, and no one to hang out with during tea time. Everyone else seems to stick with their groups, whether it’s for lunch, tea breaks, TT, or work gossip. Every week when I come to the office, I end up doing everything by myself.
Does anyone have suggestions on how I can make friends here and feel more lively in the office environment?
PS - This is just my personal experience. I spent college time alone due to COVID and then started working remotely, so I feel I've missed out on some key aspects of social development.
I have always been an introvert, I'm 27 now.
Here is how I dealt with the world,
- I used to go to any gatherings be it family or friends, even though I wasn't an active participant, my sole presence itself made me comfortable around people, it took time but it did.
- Making strong eye contact whenever engaging in a conversation with anyone.
- Speak up for yourself be it at any place, any situation.
- I intentionally used to ask my manager and team to push me in a client discussion call so that I could get a chance to speak. This helped me immensely to overcome my shyness.
- THIS IS THE MOST CRUCIAL ONE... Accepting loneliness. You have to accept this hard truth that at the end of the day, it's only you who is there for yourself. No one, not even your family will always be with you, it's just "YOU". I started going to movies, restaurants, shopping or hanging out alone. It was extremely difficult in the beginning, but now it is a piece of cake for me. For me it is absolutely normalized.
And now, I'm used to both being alone or being with people, the introvert me is accustomed to both. It is peaceful, it took me a lot of time, it was difficult, but not impossible.
Loneliness is just like darkness, the more you think about it, the more you get absorbed by it.
Today, I can spend quality time with my family, with me and the very few real friends I have left.
If I, a rock hard introvert could do it, you could do it too. You are stronger than you think, don't give up and feel free to reach out if you need to talk.
Stay strong brother 💛🤝
Need to work on fifth point. Will start exploring alone. Days are manageable but nights are unbearable. May be it will reduce depression. Loneliness is too difficult. It's too bad😢
It's difficult but it's not bad. Once you learn to handle it, you will know how peaceful it is and how strong it can make you.
Try to convert your weakness as your strength, be it anything and you will be unstoppable 😄
I enjoy being alone. I like to have the privacy of being "unknown"-nymous in a crowd rather than being "known"-nymous. There is a freedom of not being bothered by anyone unnecessarily if you are unknown. You have the freedom to move around freely. I hated my school and college days due to lack of this freedom. Those unnecessary judgements and expectations people create once they know you, now I am free from that.
Hey buddy! You are not alone. I don’t feel like coming to office as no one no from team is coming to office or are in diff dc’s. Tea time used to be my favourite time of the day but now, i couldn’t hate it more.
As an introvert who's also a selective extrovert, I initially enjoyed working alone on campus. However, after a month, I started feeling bored and isolated. My teammates are from different states and work on-site, while I'm based in Pune DC. Although I have friends in the company, we're in different projects and DCs, making it challenging to meet up due to conflicting schedules and availability. I was okay with the arrangement at first, but lately, I've been feeling like it's not what I truly want. It's okay to have mixed feelings when working alone from your DC, and I'm coming to terms with mine.
It was same for me as well when WFO started... So i started sitting in open area Hinjewadi phase 1...so going to same table everyday... Meet the same people, I started building the friendship which help me removing my loneliness in office...
You just need to start a conversation with the people around
You will surely be going to make friends
Hi mate,
You are not alone. I'm also feeling the same. Many times it causes demotivation, stress, low feeling, my team, manager ignores me. My team goes for lunch together and I'm never invited in that. Handling project single without any support. It causes mental pressure depression and all other negative things. All because of this feeling alone, no friends, feeling ignored and not appreciated. Don't know what to do and how to do.
