Need Suggestions from Mature People
I have a friend who has been through a very complicated situation. He was in a live-in relationship, and they had a child together. After a few years, he found out that his partner had affairs with three other people. They decided to separate, but since they had a kid, he continued to support both financially.
He pays her ₹20,000 per month as maintenance, covers the child’s school fees every quarter (₹35,000), and still goes every evening after work to teach the child. He also pays ₹30,000 as a home loan for the flat where his ex and child live, and he has promised to transfer the property to the child when he turns 18.
He now wants to marry another woman who genuinely loves him and is willing to accept both him and his child. When he informed his ex about this, she initially agreed but later consulted multiple lawyers and started demanding more:
- Maintenance to increase by 10% every 3 years.
- Full payment of all education costs even if the child fails or repeats classes.
- Immediate transfer of house ownership to the child instead of waiting until age 18.
- His new partner should not stay with him until they legally marry.
- Despite earning ₹1 lakh per month, his expenses already cross ₹75,000 including rent, house loan, maintenance, and school fees.
She also parties almost every night, leaving the child alone at home. The child cooks and eats alone, and his school attendance is only around 25%. During vacations, the child stays with his father and the new partner, who both try to teach him, help him in studies and take care of him properly.
Now his mother is against his new relationship and has blamed him for living with another woman, even though he has been separated for years.
He’s now financially and emotionally drained. He’s doing everything for his child but still gets blamed and manipulated.
What should he do in this case? Should he agree to her legal demands, or should he go to court and get this properly settled? I really want to know what mature people think about this situation.
Any lawyer here who can help with this situation would be really useful for this guy. He doesn't even have money to go to a lawyer and his new partner is taking all the expenses so that he is calm.
I’m not aware of any lawyers here but he should try reaching out to Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj. https://www.linkedin.com/in/deepikanbhardwaj?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_app
If this case is in Bengaluru then I can refer you to a good lawyer.
Wow!! Such an unreal story. Such f*ed up situation. In an ideal world, they both should be jailed just for the way they are bringing up their child, and the careless decision they did in this aspect. Imagine what a broken person that child will grow up to be. Catch them both and give them a good beating and keep in jail for a few days. Idiots that our country has started coming across.
See the thing is I can't tell the whole story here. But let me tell you that he tried his best to keep the kid away from that woman. He even took the kid to his house for one year. During this time the kid was doing really great at studies and had become healthy. But then his mom started panicking saying since the kid is with you, you're just giving 20k per month and I need more. After a year when the kid was back she never sent the kid back with him and now she takes extra 5K to 10k in the name of kid's fees, extra tutions and extra curricular activities....
NAL, But know someone who was in a similar situation. First make sure your friend documents everything to show that he supports the child, also go full NC with her, unless it involves the child.
you mentioned she's negligent, but this needs to be documented and presented, the courts don't bother with relationship status and place the child's welfare above. So a good lawyer should solve this problem by giving the father custody of the child if that's something he's willing to take on. If not, then there is a section in place that formalizes maintenance based on income and needs of the child, not her requirements.
The house issue, iirc, the child is liable to inheritance of both parents, so he could probably just hold off on the house now, and put it in the kids name for when they turn 18 and are an adult. That way the ex is out of the picture and has no control over the situation, and does not become a joint owner while he remains the owner of the house.
Also, just my opinion, I'd keep the new relationship private, and maybe not get married until all this is settled just to avoid this colliding with the new relationship and bringing any issues that another lawyer could use, the Indian system is weird and lawyers are dirty, so it's best not to take chances.
These are just my thoughts, I'm not a professional. He'd be best off consulting a family court lawyer or you may get better advice if you post this on the reddit legaladviceindia sub
Thanks for the suggestion. Let me check with my friend once and get back
Who are you to him? And why do you care so much for him
He is my husband's friend
If they only lived together and no marriage happened, where is the legal validity and position to pay alimony?.
This is called KARMA He has to face it...
Wtf
Take it to the court! The child needs attention. File for custody.
He needs a lawyer. Even if he can't afford one
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Are they legally married?
Do they have the registration of their marriage?
No nothing.... They were never married
@Cherryblossom I saw your last post. Is this the same guy for whom you are putting your efforts but he himself don’t wanna get out of his situation? And draining your energy??
No this is my friend...
Last time I had put post for another person
