Need help in Understanding
Today an incident occurred and i need help in understanding the reality post that: My bf and I have been in relationship since a few yrs now. Today I had to meet one of my close friend in the early evening. I said about this plan to him. So he too decided to go meet a few of his friends. Then we decided that he’d come pick me at the metro station when I return. All fine until now. After about 5 hrs I set back to home. I keep updating him constantly of my location. So it’s easy for him as well to start bidding adieu to his friends and nothing is spontaneous and abrupt. When I’m about 20 mins I text him that he can leave for the metro station now.
Btw, he is drinking and having a “good time “ with his friends.
Then he texts me can you wait for 10 more minutes, coz he has not even left his friends place still …he says inspite of me updating him in real time of my location.
The questions which I’m seeking clarity on is:
- Should he have asked me to wait?
Continuing the story:
When he asks me to wait I get very frustrated… because I was hoping he’d be there for me on time. Then I drop him some sulking messages like thinking what did I have done expectations from you etc… when he called later I was angry and was speaking loudly in anger.. wasn’t cursing or wasn’t disrespectful as such.
Then he yells at the top of voice .. he yells am I your slave in Hindi… that I need to be there on time .. then I just disconnect the call.
Then I take an auto and come back home.
And we again fight at home .
I mean who is being reasonable and who is being stupid here?
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Yes. You sound like a control freak.
He's not your slave/pet to be available to you 24x7
If he's really ignoring you all the time all you do is fight then it's time for "I don't think this is working out, let's take a break"
But both of you are supposed to have a "me" time no?
Idk how people work
What makes you think from my post that I’m a control freak ? Just curious
You both need to be a little mature. Sounds like Teens fight for nothing. Don't want to sound rude but just facts!!.
Its a normal fight between couples. I had gone through something like that a long time back and when i was upset about it, my bf said would you have not waited for a Uber for longer, I burst out laughing...Dont read too much into it...
Yes of course I knew he was drunk . He doesn’t hang out with his just to talk . If he hangs out he needs to drink coz he thinks that’s the only way to have a good time.
If he's drunk it's obvious to not trust the commitments of a drunk person. You should've left after waiting for 10 minutes, unconditionally.
Having good time you said and if you care you would have booked an auto and let the guy have his time.
From his side he should have also communicated that it will take time and he can’t make it. Both are wrong here
Both side’s mistake, immaturity peak basically. And if you were aware from beginning that he was on a drinking spree, then mistake more on your side, in that case you should have never agreed to meet, and/or cancelled the plan of meeting him and gone ahead alone.