I have been talking to a girl. I got her number through marriage groups. She has a degree of msc physics. She teaches in a tuition classes and works mostly 2 hours. So she asked about my parents business and everything. We had a old business. But we still pays EMIs and it will be done in 2-3 years. I am working in IT company and package is 10 LPA. The money i earn is enough i guess for both of us. I live in tier-3 town and doing wfh. Will mostly settle in tier-2 city if i continue my job. I have some business aspirations too. But i want my partner to work atleast 6-7 hours as house chores can done by money like hiring a maid etc.Even i will help in house chores. She is not ready to work even 6-7 hours. She has some physical fatigue problem but i know she can do it. She has A grades in post grad. Even my mother is forcing me to consider this girl as she will help in house hold chores. But what about my fear and insecurity of layoffs. I see people are not getting jobs even after a year. She also asked about every business detail like when does business started, is my father's brother still supports or not etc.Do you guys think we can compatible, my intuition says no.
If she is less than 25 yrs, she is better than most. Women working to support the family should be the last resort. If her tution money is enough to say meet grocery bills that should be fine. She can keep busy for some time in the day and focus on the family for the rest of the time. A ideal work life balance for a woman.
If she works 6-7 hrs a day it's normal working woman. Then comes the talk of equality and other feminist nonsense.
If she is 29+... Run.
Why does age matters here?
Adaptability goes down as we age.
U can't expect a perfect relationship+ perfect job wife, if u have aspirations and all u 1st try saving money by ur own, if she is not dependent on your money that's fine it won't create any issues, but if she has issues for job then why u forcing her. If she is not dependent on u on money wise, then u can better take time and save money, if she is good by nature and character then i don't think money will create any issues
Money issues can be solved with time with proper saving method and with good communication with partners
But character and nature can't be solved even with good communications
So choose wisely
I am not expecting anything except she works. I am even ok to open a place for tution classes. But she is not ready to work more than 2 hours. In my experience, character and nature is tested when we are in bad condition financially. I have not met her , just talked on phone. I got these issues. But i need security if i got laid off. Today only we get to know that microsoft laid off 3% of workforce.
She can work as a teacher in a school. My mom is 55 years old and still teaches. I believe having a wife who is a teacher offers two significant advantages:
While it is true that teachers earn less than professionals in other fields, their salaries tend to increase with experience. Additionally, if you have a child, enrolling them in the school where your wife works can result in fee concessions, alleviating concerns about school expenses.
Moreover, even if you lose your job or have EMIs to pay, you will at least have one stable source of income from your wife's salary, even as you approach your 50s.
Yeah , i know education has good money. I asked her to join some school to get students for tuitions. I have also seen people building houses by just doing tuitions only. She is adamant that she will work for 2 hours only. The problem is we have to write about all the business in biodata. Otherwise we will not get any matches.I am only one son .She knows that i will get some property in inheritance. But we will need all family hands working whenever bad situation comes. Feeling sad when someone just takes you as monetary object
Uh OP, like your gut says, you both are not compatible in this economy.
Talk to her buddy ,of she is really a good person , forget money Anol , you already have a big wealth there
You cannot have good days all the time. We had a really bad time when we used to run the house in 10k. So when bad days come, all family members need to contribute in the situation. I guess same will be not possible with her.
go with your intuition
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