Need genuine advice

I can completely understand. Matrimonial apps is even worst. You can try dating via apps with letting the other person to know your intention and expecting same. It takes time but there is some chances of getting a good partner. The best way is to find someone in your circle or keep meeting new people. I'm also struggling but these are the things I'm trying

Am i the only one who dont know whats a date is?

I have seen both sides.. Friends getting married via tinder, Friends getting married via matrimonial apps.. and sure some ending in divorce .. The more i think about it.. Matrimonial and dating apps optimize for visibility, not viability. So the people who rise to the top aren't the most stable, reflective, or relationship-ready - are usually the ones best at packaging themselves under artificial filters. Income, education, height, caste, city - these are filters, not predictors of partnership quality. The most fun couple I know.. would look the most boring by bios. And boy the parties are lit A F. The way I see it - the more you optimize for SERIOUSNESS on apps, the more you attract people who are serious about appearing serious. If you want a real signal, stop asking where to find someone and start engineering conditions where character leaks out naturally: Long projects. Slow friendships. Repeated exposure. Shared responsibility. Unscripted time. and it will happen... Serious people don't reveal themselves quickly. They reveal themselves consistently. And no app is built to reward that. I will leave you with that thought..

Filter as much as you like for income/education but nothing will predict who will sit with you during a bad year, not a good one. And that's what matters most.. At least to me.

Imagine if experienced are finding it hard...then how tough it is for freshers. iykyk.

Point 2: sams goes with high earning men (or just men in general). They will never cook for their in-laws.

Finding Online is Scam

Meeting & Talking In-person is only way to find Genuine person

I've Zero trust on online dating or matrimony apps

High earning women are generally not preferred because:

1. Its is generalized that all females have a typical desi mentality wherein "My money is mine and belongs to me, if husband asks for it or question on it, they blame him for wanting financial control! But man's money belongs to wife, it should be spent to secure a couples future, and look after daily needs!"
2. High earning women, again generalized by society, feel that entering kitchen or taking care of the loved ones (especially when loved ones are from grooms side) is a sign of patriarchy and they are being dominated or ill treated by forcing into inferior work!
3. High earning women don't like to compromise on anything, if anything bad happens in the relationship they feel easier to start from new rather than trying to fix the current one.
4. If a man takes care of a low earning women, he will rarely make her feel that he is doing some favour for providing her, but women do it like.. "Bibi ka kamaya khata he, khud to kuch kamaya nahi, gali ka baccha bhi isse jyada kamata hey" type.

Note: I have just put bluntly what I see in society, none of the above are my own personal views.

I feel, marriage is a two way thing, both have to equally contribute, compromise and be compassionate about each other and each others family, they should act like a team to achieve their common goals!

If you have already been in relationships before, dated before, it shouldn't be so difficult for you to approach one. Look around in your office circle, gym circle, etc.

I met a girl through Matrimonal website spoke with her for couple of months , meet her thrice she was very kind but didn't proceed further as we didn't match ): You can find profile in matrimonial apps but just need to differentiate between good and the creeps profiles.. Good luck

In person meeting and casual meetups are the way to go. Online is mostly just scams.