I am turning 25 next month and my family is after me for getting married. They are saying you need to start looking now so that you will find someone in 1.5-2.5yr till then you will be 27-28. But I am not sure whether I am ready or not I am working in an early stage startup so the job is also not stable. I also have goals to achieve before marriage like a foreign trip and buying a car at the same time what family is saying is making sense to me what should I do?
Achieve ur goals manh.. Prioritize your happiness and dreams.. You are too young. If you find a right person, marry her. Otherwise, take some time. NB: if you couldn't get a partner after taking my advice into mind, don't blame me
Thanks, Ideally when should I say Yes to them?
You'll never "feel" ready for these kinda things. You figure things out as you proceed. Your parents are not entirely wrong. You need to consider the dynamics of how these things work. In India, the best time for a guy to marry IMO is around 27 or prior, as you'll get the most number of matches and also the "cream layer". The longer you wait the harder it gets. That being said if you're reapply unsure about job stability, getting a more stable one would make sense before marrying.
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If you find the right person, all your goals will be easier to achieve. They’ll offload a lot of your work, will provide good feedback in your work, support you in whatever you are doing. I would say - meet as many people as you can and now that you’re young you don’t need to hurry - take your time and find your one.
So should I say Yes to my parents?
Usually it depends on individuals and their approach to life.
You can postpone searching a bride for 1-1.5 year or so, and get married by 28 or 29.
as it's an arranged marriage you need time to search a bride, then spend time to decide if you both are a good match. So delaying very much may not be an ideal case for an arrange marriage.
So yeah don't stress too much about marriage at 25, spend some time propelling your career, travel and do things you wanted to do.
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Hey I see your post you are 25M and you wanted to achieve your goals I totally understand your situation, I am 32M married with 5 year old son (Super cute to spend time with :)) I got married when I was 24 believe me I was even not ready but the girl I met was caring and in understanding nature so I decided to marry and I have progress a lot in my life after she came into my life so its all about the person who is coming in your life so I suggest meet the girl and try to see if she can be a good partner and when you are marrying you are not jist tying a not to one person its whole family so try to understand whole family when you are doing get-together even if its love marriage .
Hope you find your Partner! !
Do not go for arranged marriage, try dating women first
Get married.
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