DizzyBoba

Need a crash course on female interaction at workplace

Hey guys, due to unfortunate circumstances, I have never been able to figure this out. Any help is helpful.

Is going lengths to avoid interactions at all times a good strategy? I have been following this.
Can saying hi to a female coworker get me in trouble? (posh)

3.1 Assuming I abandon strat #1, in a completely hypothetical scenario, is it ok to tell a female who's standing next to lift buttons to press my floor button instead of getting uncomfortably close and pressing it myself? would it be creepy and/or misogynistic?

3.2 If I am already in the lift, and the door is closing and I see a female sprinting at the lift, should I hold the door so that she can get in before the door closes? Does doing this make me creepy? Does not doing anything make me a selfish person?

is it ok to question life and wonder why most HRs are females?
?

Any leads would be useful. If you have any other strats that work wonders, let me know as well. Please refrain from commenting if you don't know the answers or you're in the same (overcrowded) boat. Thanks in advance. 🙏

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GoofyPancake

Stealth12d

Women are also just humans, interact with them like how you would talk to male colleague. Now coming to your questions

Depends on why you want to avoid interacting? Is it because you like that person?
No one files complaints for saying hello/hi. Just don’t go out of your way to do that. If you are crossing paths at work, saying good morning/hello /hi is no biggie.
Telling someone to press lift buttons is ok, just be nice. If you want to do it yourself just say excuse me and then do it. Please don’t invade anyones private space.
The more you go out of your way to come across as non creepy, the more you will come across as creepy
You can question life, choices etc and I sincerely hope this is a troll post else what you are asking is merely common sense and nothing out of the ordinary.

DizzyBoba

Stealth12d

Interact with them like how you would talk to male colleague help me to be able to agree with this since its very obvious to me that some interactions cannot be gender neutral😐

I forgot to add to the post to ask people to refrain from commenting with "well it depends...", my bad. Avoiding is best because it's non-disruptive strat. They go on to live their day, I go on to live my day. To your second question, I just wanted to know in general, not any particular person. So kind of independent of whether I like them or not.
Good to know, but will still need to confirm with other replies in the thread. What counts as "going out of the way" by the way? Like can you give an example?
I see.
How.. I need baseline calibration to know what is creepy and what is not creepy, otherwise my actions could be creepy by default.
Ok for the first part, but about it being common sense and nothing out of the ordinary, what's common for you is not common for me, and what may be nothing out of the ordinary for me could be very strange for someone else. So, I needed collective feedback, more data points, the better. Thanks for the help.

BubblyPotato

Stealth12d

😂😂😂You are asking if females are aliens Bhaisahab koi hafta hafta aa rha hai toh lift toh rokni hi chahiye irrespective of the gender😭😭

DizzyBoba

Stealth11d

you are asking as if females are aliens Hai bhai, to me.. they are. Ofc no offense. Isiliye research kr rha hu mai. 🫡

GoofyBurrito

Student11d

PookieA good luck catching a lift ig 🤭

SqueakyCoconut

Morgan Stanley11d

You should just avoid women altogether, all time, would be best for you and all the women

DizzyBoba

Stealth9d

Why so toxic

SqueakyCoconut

Morgan Stanley7d

I am concerned about the women you might interact with, specifically about their safety and mental health. Please stay away from them

FluffyWaffle

Stealth11d

Don’t

SqueakyCoconut

Morgan Stanley7d

Agreed

BouncyMarshmallow

Stealth11d

Get married ASAP. I got over female interaction shyness after getting married, ofcourse it was all arranged by my parents, I just wilfully silently curiously dil-mey-laddoo-phooteyly participated in process.

DizzyBoba

Stealth11d

get married asap

Brother, that's like suggesting someone to buy a Ferrari if they asked how to drive a car. I cannot afford a Ferrari my dude.

GroovyPotato

Zomato12d

Not the same for everybody. If you're good looking, it's charisma. If you're ugly you're labelled a creep. Just be self aware and show interest in talking to them as they do.

DizzyBoba

Stealth12d

Bhai. Itna self awareness hota to yeh post thodi karta 🌚

GroovyBanana

British Telecom12d

3.2.. I never ever stop lift for a woman until she does not so signals in any manner. And my advice don't ever do it even if lift has a cctv

GigglyDonut

Stealth12d

Why not?

DizzyBoba

Stealth12d

I see, Idk I was borderline thinking the same that's why I asked to get a second and third opinion.

GigglyDonut

Stealth12d

Yes, if you have to interact with a female, ask for the male of that house and tell him what you need
Depends on how you say it. Saying hi and looking down might get you in trouble but eye contact could get police case. It’s a lose lose really 3.1 Avoiding contact is the best strategy, so get down at a different floor and come back 3.2 Depends on how fast she’s running, if she’s not running fast enough isn’t she selfish to expect holding the door without good efforts? But letting get in means letting females get ahead. This is a close call really
Ofc, wondering is growing

DizzyBoba

Stealth12d

So, basically I change nothing. I see.

BubblyNoodle

Nike12d

I don’t trust you . Stay away .

DizzyBoba

Stealth12d

I literally said this yesterday though 😢

ZippyMochi

Stealth11d

Can't tell if you're being serious or sarcastic tbh

DizzyBoba

Stealth11d

What's sarcastic about this 😵

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