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My friend became my boss.

Me and a friend joined a company together as freshers. Over time we both grew our knowledge and got comfortable with our daily tasks. Our project manager happened to be from around my friend's place, and upon learning that, they both started having frequent conversations and over time became really good with each other while I had never spoken with the manager. And with this, the manager started having a bias towards my friend. And then one day, he asks my friend to take up the assistant team lead (ATL) position without considering anyone else, in spite of having better candidates for the role (people with 5+ years of experience). Now I'm being assigned tasks from my good friend. He sometimes tends to micro manage me, which I really don't like. But what I hate the most is when he assigns me bugs from his tasks, I mean it's his task right, why should I deal with his mess (bugs), and secondly I don't even have any knowledge about his task so wouldn't he himself fix the bugs faster than anyone else? But nope, he just doesn't wanna deal with it, and since he's the boss, he gets to decide who works on the tasks. I'm honestly not liking taking orders from my friend, how do I deal with this situation?

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GroovyPenguin
GroovyPenguin
Stealth26mo

Bhai pehli baat vo tera dost nhi hai corporate mei dost vost kuch nhi hota sabko apni apni padi hoti hai. Tum chaahe kitna kaam kar lo agar mail chain pe naam nhi dikh rha hoga tumhara to tumko koi nhi poochne vaala.

FuzzyNoodle
FuzzyNoodle
Stealth26mo

Exactly, Dost hota to teeno ek sath party party khelte - akele dost and boss nhi

SwirlyWalrus
SwirlyWalrus
JP Morgan26mo

Switch

SwirlyNugget
SwirlyNugget
Stealth26mo

Second that

JumpyBagel
JumpyBagel
Stealth26mo

Arey toh manager aapko jaanega tabhi toh kuch KRA dega? You need to show up (sometimes, show-off) your work to the higher ups.

FloatingPenguin
FloatingPenguin
Stealth26mo

This is common. It shucks to be junior to someone who you consider as your friend. Sometimes you get an equal opportunity but the one with superior skills that matter gets promoted. I have noticed if you can't take it well and feel micromanage you won't be able to accept your friend in that position and it will become toxic for you personally and professionally. Take your call , move teams or ask him to pitch for you to move you to another team

SqueakyCoconut
SqueakyCoconut
Stealth26mo

Thanks for sharing your perspectives guys. One thing is for sure, I won't be able to work by taking orders from my friend, that'll drain my energy mentally. So definitely switching in near time.

SillyDonut
SillyDonut
TCS26mo

Pahli fursat me nikl lo Bose dk

FuzzyNoodle
FuzzyNoodle
Stealth26mo

Friend and micro management really? Pathetic Maintain your work life balance and do your your 100 from 10-7 and Ghar aa jao and forget about it and enjoy with family till the market condition is worst you need to deal it. Also your friend spent too much grocery on your boss that is why now he is enjoying and cheering life. Ye Corporate hai yaha sabh aese hi chalta hai

DancingNoodle
DancingNoodle
X (formerly Twitter)26mo

Quit and look for new job

FuzzyNoodle
FuzzyNoodle
Stealth26mo

Really? What if he gets fired before even salary didnt get credited

JazzyMuffin
JazzyMuffin
Stealth26mo

Jo dikhta hai wahi bikta hai

PrancingNarwhal
PrancingNarwhal
Appcino26mo

Sad reality. Science students must be kept away from this. No one takes Scuence for this stupidity, "Jo dikhta hai wohi bikta hai".

SquishyBanana
SquishyBanana
Stealth26mo

I see nothing wrong in this. Your friend is career oriented and you are not ready for corporate world.

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