FloatingRaccoon

Met a guy over reddit - he suddenly stopped talking to me

I met a guy over reddit few weeks ago. We both talked about our workplace issues, about mba entrance exam prep and few other things. He mentioned he liked talking to me and so did I.

But he never told me his name or anything about his identity as he mentioned how people spend a lot of time in the beginning to get to know each other and this might be a distraction since both of us are preparing for mba entrance this year.

Few days ago, he texted me that this texting consumes a lot of time and energy and he feels exhausted and he doesn't have the bandwidth as he needs to fully focus on his preparation for now.

So he stopped talking to me and mentioned how he is still interested in being friends after the entrance exam in November.

I want to understand a guy's perspective here. Do guys leave everything to focus on their career? Am I being unreasonable for feeling bad about this situation? Is it okay to sometimes prioritise career in our 20s and leave everything else? I feel there could be a balance but would like to know a third opinion.

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SquishyCupcake

Cognizant16mo

He might be coming from a humble background and may have some responsibilities.
And yeah we boys leave everything for our goals 😔💔😊

FloatingRaccoon

Stealth16mo

got it, thanks for your message

GroovyCupcake

Stealth16mo

He texted and let you know his priorities. Which is good. Unlike some ppl who actually ghost.

FloatingRaccoon

Stealth16mo

You're right. Ghosting would have been worse. I did like that part when he came up to talk about it.

SwirlyTaco

PayTM16mo

With the cut throat competition everywhere, it's extremely difficult to be balanced with everything and still be at the top 1%

FloatingRaccoon

Stealth16mo

I see. Okay

DerpyQuokka

Stealth16mo

Don't think about much, it may be he has his own responsibilities and any other family career related commitments. Today time is very vast competative and full of pressure especially for men their life is full of pressure. Society demands directly from them. If he was good with you then think about it sometimes person has to keep their things aside in order to keep other things. Be happy.

FloatingRaccoon

Stealth16mo

makes sense. got it. Thanks

ZestySushi

Zomato16mo

That's me and my personality. I don't talk unless we are similar in our aspirations and goals. Only prefer meeting anyone going in the same direction.

FloatingRaccoon

Stealth16mo

ahh I see. okay

WobblyTaco

Stealth16mo

Balancing priorities is necessary, throughout your life. This is a critical skill that you should get used to, ASAP.

See how your parents juggle between everything. That's bcz it's necessary.

FloatingRaccoon

Stealth16mo

Understood. Thanks

TwirlyDumpling

Freelancer16mo

Try again in November,if you want to be friends with him. Yes,we guys do leave everything to focus on our goals.i did the same thing a few years back (had a gap of a few months due to surgery). I completely stopped entertaining myself,scrolling YouTube/insta , chatting etc. Because our existence is only defined by our goal.We can't expect unconditional love from anyone else not even from our own parents sometimes. Only my dog loves me unconditionally.

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