I have a younger brother, pretty much GenZ (both by age and actions).
My brother and I share a very close bond. Given that our parents have been pretty strict about being desciplined, well mannered and humble and following traditions (selective), I made sure since he was born that I'll be his best friend, a safe place where he can share all his secrets and emotions, where he'll feel accepted, comfortable and appreciated.
But time and again, I've also ensured that I raise his to be a well spoken, well mannered and a humble gentleman.
Recently, he went to college, he has made many female friends. While scrolling through his Instagram handle, I came across a picture which was posted by a female friend of his, reposted in my brother's stories, where the girl and he were standing a meter apart from each other, and were showing "the finger". The girl went on to write "me and my homie".
This triggered me. I immediately called him up and asked him to take the picture down to which he didn't agree and proceeded to cut my call as well.
I stayed patient. And I texted him. And asked how would you feel if some random friend of mine came over and abused me and called it as a friendly way of acknowledging my presence in his life?
He called me after sometime, and I explained to him that I understand that college is new, there's excitement and zeal and enthusiasm, but what's more important is that you stay respectful towards everyone, but ESPECIALLY women. This is not old-fashioned, this is a character trait. And I asked him to apologise to his lady friend.
We both are GenZs, but me being older to him, I'm going to ensure that I raise my brother with standards and dignity, mannerisms of all sorts. I want his future gf/wife to say that the women in his life (myself and mom) have raised a gentleman. And I don't know how much of a great job I'm doing, but I do know that I'm going to raise a man who knows how to seek and give respect. ❤️
Let him live his life, make his own mistakes, and learn from them. It's his journey, and he deserves to enjoy the experience of independence. If you constantly interfere, you may not realize it, but your relationship could begin to drift apart. He might stop sharing the things he once did. Be a safe place for him, not a source of judgment. Offering guidance on important matters from time to time is fine, but allow him the space to develop his own personality.
Noooo. Be a safe place and also the one who guides. Being a safe place doesn't mean that we will let our loves ones make such mistakes that alter their character.
You did right.. he might not get it now.. but the thing with social media is it will never go away.. so he will be happy with your advice if not now..surely 10 years from now
Ikr? Glad someone understands this!
Will you live by ur own misgivings till then or are you gonna learn to bake to kill time 😗
It’s made up story, right?
Is that your way of coping with your own lack of imagination?
Not quite but does help to challenge sometimes
He is lucky to have an elder sibling. I have elder cousins, but no elder sibling of my own, I am the elder sibling. Many times, I wish I too had an elder sibling, who could watch over me and still be my friend.
Most of the GenZ isn't going right places because the parents are busy and occupied in their career/enjoying the money they made.
So, yes it's the responsibility of the elder siblings to be that guide, the friend, the bestie and everything Genz wants.
GenZ has started renaming hookups as situationships with very very slight difference in it. This renaming only serves one purpose "it doesn't sound as bad as hookup and sounds like relationship".
While Genz is going in that direction, I feel happy to read that Millennials are taking up such responsibility and that too without any obligation.
Lastly, make sure to sometimes give him freedom. For example, allow him to go to solo trips or group trips with boys and girls if he wants to. This may or may not directly align with your thought process. But this will give him feeling "didi achi ha meri baat bhi maanti ha". And no don't give him the "freedom to make mistakes" because we know what it leads to.
Keep it up. More power to you 🙌
It's great that younger men are recognizing this as a problem. The solution becomes easier from here.
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