Marriage is??
Another option i wanted to add is— Glorified and hyped to instill fear of loneliness in later life
To be frank i am too much scared of marriage. Now a days girls are like running behind money only. And they are exposing too much just for seeking attention. They are really not trustable anymore. If they are having friends group or bestfriend then definitely i will prefer to stay away from them. Be alone , work on yourself, watch tv shows, enjoy exploring the world, earn money and die peacefully.
By the way, I’m a girl myself, and I agree with what you said. The “women card” is being misused, with some not ready to learn and earn anything but looking to loot someone’s hard-earned money, wanting a fancy lifestyle, and showing off, etc. I’m scared of marriage too because of society’s never-ending checklist (marriage, house, car, kids, wealth, etc.) to prove to society that you are successful, with no real living at all. But there are good girls with the wrong husbands, struggling to cope with all the family responsibilities.
Except one or two, many commenters here have either not seen the powerful force a positive relationship can be or are just too scared of life long commitment itself. Everyone is too focused on freedom, whereas not realising that living within yourself (mentally) is holding you back from living fully in life. Humans have a need to share pieces of themselves and their minds, otherwise platforms like Reddit or Grapevine won’t exist. Sharing their thought process and improving themselves by validating thoughts through people who know better. But this holds you back from sharing your deepest, most secret thoughts one can feel comfortable sharing only with a companion (how should I help my masturbation addiction, how should I improve my family, etc) because they know you closely and observe you from the outside everyday (which even you don’t). Things that you believe about yourself but don’t put into action ever, they’ll call you out on your bullshit.
Marriage doesn’t hold you back, it propels you forward and expands your view and life with the right partner. To get the right partner, improve your judgement instead of blaming the world. Look for people who value true education (not degrees) and realistic maturity in outlook towards challenges. Trust their actions, don’t believe lip service. Money/fat/thin/beauty/personality/likes/dislikes is all a waste of time and easily changeable facets of life as one evolves/molds - but you can’t change one’s nature. Do better instead of being scared.
Bro, I totally get the appeal of having a companionship where you have someone for emotional support, sharing burdens, and enjoying life together. Everyone desires that kind of connection. It was much simpler during our parents’ time, but now, with all the divorce stories and complicated relationships around us, it feels scary to fully trust someone and get emotionally attached.
Seeing double standards, even in close circles, makes it harder to believe in long-lasting, happy marriages. Honestly, it’s tough to find positive examples these days, and it makes you wonder if the simple, honest life is too much of an expectation now. Even celebrities who seem perfect end up falling apart. So, do we just go through the motions because it’s expected of us, or should we hold out for something better?
Marriage is all about when two person accept and willing to live life together without any conditions...if you love,care and understand the person as human not for beauty money and lust. I'm currently feeling upset while seeing everyone around me and whatever else running in my life as well. If you are man you will be evaluated by your finance and if you are female you will be evaluated by every means. For both choosing right person has became like wining war.Everyone knows how to demand, complain,compare and switch you with others.. peoples emotions has became replaceable. I have acquired every essential qualities for being perfect spouse but but but I see everyone has only demands in lives no-one wants to live life with you... people wants to live life with you but with so n so things or conditions..it is very frustrating to feel . I don't have any past whenever I share this to my friends they also start saying no it can't be happening you are pretending to be like so. In the matter of marriage or love things became very challenging and demanding. No matter how good kind understanding you are life gives you only sufferings. You left alone to be treated as options by friends peoples or anyone. It is better to get married with someone who celebrates you the way you are ! Mutually you should also be so loving caring sharing loyal and true with your beloved.
I completely understand how you feel. Detachment and betrayals can be far more painful than being alone. The fear of loneliness affects everyone, and many seek companionship for that reason. But from what I’ve observed, many married people seem lonelier than singles, often seeking validation outside of their relationship.
Seems like either you are against it or youve ended up in bad relationships as i dont see any positive option about being married
I haven’t seen any positive aspects of marriage based on what I’ve observed or heard. If you can enlighten me on why one should marry, your perspectives are welcome. Please don’t mention reasons like reproduction, sex, or overcoming future loneliness—there are alternatives to those. The one thing I do see is the potential for emotional and moral support, but if that fails, the detachment can be even more painful.
Ask people who are middle class, not so attractive, single and at the age of 30+. I’m sure he/she will ask you to add some relevant options.
Unfortunately, I can only add 4 options here, and I’ve included what I felt was most relevant. Your perspectives are welcome
