ZestyDumpling
ZestyDumpling

Marriage in Early Stage Matters ?

25M. My parents keep on asking to get marry Because I am earning.. But the thing is I am not prepared for this, need to achieve my goals, not sure I will be reaching my goals after marriage. more over there are some trust issues on arranged marriages. Also I do get this on my mind some times, does marriage is mandatory, can't we live without marriage, I feel this when I see married people pretends that they are happy outside but they are not inside, reasons might differ, lack of understanding, compromises, adjustments, Financial instability . I am in full of confused state. I already rejected few matches because of this mixed feelings and also to achieve my goals.

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ZoomyMuffin
ZoomyMuffin

You dont wanna marry soon? Then fucking don't.

What do you mean parents aren't listening? Aren't you man enough to put your foot down and politely ask them to mind their own life? If being polite doesn't help, then you need to get respectfully & assertively rude.

If your married life fucks you up mentally, they will be the first to blame it back on you. Also, when you can't stand up for what you want, no one else will. Your parents, wife and her parents will manipulate you alive.

FluffyKoala
FluffyKoala

Of course, we can live without marriage. Lot of people are living alone happily, whether they got there by being unmarried, divorced, or widowed.

It's your life. You do whatever feels right to you. To hell with what other people think, just ignore them.

WobblyPancake
WobblyPancake

Hey I see your post you are 25M and you wanted to achieve your goals I totally understand your situation, I am 32M married with 5 year old son (Super cute to spend time with :)) I got married when I was 24 believe me I was even not ready but the girl I met was caring and in understanding nature so I decided to marry and I have progress a lot in my life after she came into my life so its all about the person who is coming in your life so I suggest meet the girl and try to see if she can be a good partner and when you are marrying you are not jist tying a not to one person its whole family so try to understand whole family when you are doing get-together even if its love marriage .

Hope you find your dream partner!!

Let me know if you need any more advice happy to help!! :)

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