Marriage Decision
I am working in IT earning 50LPA. I have responsibilities towards my family.
I have two proposal in my hand right now. One is BBA and earning 20LPA, but coming with a lot of responsibilities, her parents are aged doesn't have any brother. She do have sisters but very hard to deal with. Yes I feel she loves me.
Other one is Btech + MBA, good looking, but not working. She is coming from financially strong family and have good political connections as well.
My family wants me to get married to the 2nd one but I am vibing more with the first one, I do also have some concerns.
Want to know views of fourm.
Political connections are a double edged sword; it can work against you as well in case something goes wrong. Sometimes things do go wrong.
50+20 - I don’t think financially you would have any challenge tending for 2 families even in the worst case.
Lastly, you can make things last only when there’s some chemistry between you two. I think you know the answer - go for what you feel is right.
Why are you so scared about the 1st one having family responsibilities? Don't you have any responsibility towards your parents? And what if the girls expects you to not have any family responsibility? Woud you take that?
I am not scared. It's just if I have two options, I want to choose the best. It's not like will not have any responsibilities towards the other one.
I'm too looking for girl with IT 60lpa. If it's me I'll choose 2nd option if everything is almost same in terms of nature and compatibility. 1st option For her family, your family and future children, you need someone to manage house so in short term her working is not an issue but in future working couple will have very hard time. If she is open to stop working in case need arises then it's upto to you to choose. just keep in mind working female still needs to take kids responsibility which males can't take even if they wants to, so female start getting stressed a lot and results in lot of fight within couple and sometimes in family( assuming she is good by nature, if not then you are in trouble). I too incline towards working female due to IT job security issue nowadays but if non working and has good background then it works too in case of emergency, you can partially rely on them and they can help you in invest in real state so no issue with future money atleast. Each girl will come with different sets of issue just think whichever you can handle. Just be mindful never marry well-off family, high officer or politician daughter if she is arrogant or unnecessary proud.
Bro 1st do background checks both..
1st one....as she u like her..n she is earning.
2nd come can come with ego n attitude....what's the point of so much education when u don't even work.
BBA earning 20LPA 😱
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First one better since she's a working women. And you like her.
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