Marriage and career advice.

Atleast make 1 switch and grab atleast decent package upto 12 lpa and then only get married, ask them time for another 1-1.5 years mininum. Give your best to switch and if possible, ask them to see a guy and ask them to wait for few years for marriage till you are settled! and if a guy cant wait for 1.5-2 years, he is not the right one. if your parents still force you, rebel . or if you want to handle things strategically then always find out a negative point in the guy they are introducing so that you get time.

I read all other comments/question. Here's my unpopular opinion:

Btw I'm 34M...I still don't feel I am settled. 1. So "settled properly" is subjective thing, DONT WAIT FOR THIS.

2. In India, we generally follow PATRIARCHAL FAMILY system. Which means Man is expected to be bread winner. Women MAY/May not work/earn.

3. If u want to earn, make sure to talk this with your husband,in laws before marriage itself. Another implication of this is that

4. You need not be extremely workholic. You need not aim for super high CTC or a super high position. If you still wanna do it sure...go for it.

5. Best age to marry is 25 to 27, beyond which it is biologically difficult as well as you will face problems when you are kids will not earn when you retire.

6. If you find a good partner, it is always best to work hard achieve together and build your own kingdom together.

7. Finding a marriage partner is more and more difficult after a certain age...once you cross 27 it's going to be difficult to find a partner.

8. Once you cross 30, your thoughts are more likely to be more rigid more matured which means the marriage is very difficult to survive. In most cases if both people are rigid difficult. If you marry at 25 26 you both are flexible, you both will adjust , change more easily.

9. If you are going for an arrange marriage, usually it does take 1-2 years to find a well suited husband to get married and finished the formalities.

10. Also you did not mention about kids, if you do a late marriage you are too old for kids so let's say your 32 and you gave about to a child you will be exhausted by playing with them. You cannot match your energy with their older you get. Marry in spend quality time with kids.

For all I am not trying to de motivate you from your ambition or asking you to marry in a hurry. Take your time, think through very very properly, collect all your thoughts with respect to marriage, spend enough time dating enjoying may be talking to your would be husband. However do try to get married within next one to two years for your own long term betterment. All the very best and God bless but do not listen to the westtoxification, Instagram reels, and genz. If any you should talk to uncles and aunty in their 40 50 and 60th to get the clear picture and the reality of life. Ultimately whether you marry at 27 or 35 or 32 if you are decision but you have to face to consequences.

Marriage is the reason why most women doesn't see the exponential growth of their career and salary.

When you marry when you have a low ctc, most of the times, your career will take a back seat and you might be expected to sacrifice your career for building your family. If you prioritize family over career, this won't be an issue. But if you want a stable professional career and climb the ladder, think twice.

Again, there can be super supportive partners who value your career as much as theirs. But I just wanted to let you know about both sides of the coin. Best wishes.

So sorry @Watermelonseed. Somehow the topic of discussion went off the track. I'm unable to edit my comments so I'm writing here now.
If you feel the need to talk, you can text me. My friend certainly went through such a phase from her life but she is surely more than happy. One last piece of advice to make it easy - You don't have to find that perfect partner, you just have to find that perfect relationship. And it begins with you :) Make yourself happy and the world will turn a Disney movie for you

Let them find good match and you give interview. Marriage is a process and it can’t be done in one or two days. Who knows you may get good one early in your career and both can settle with hustle. As a retired person parents feel insecure and want thier children go to good family.

You can still switch job after marriage bro, let's settle first and then get married is rich people terminology. Ideal is to get married between 24 to 27 if you got the job and thinking about continuing the job(like not preparing govt job etc). Early marriage will leads to early child probably and various other things. Get married bro if Boy and Girl liked each other.

Marrying a good spouse is single most important decision . If you find right person marry without waiting for jobs. Jobs come and go. Good compatible person are harder to find.

Even if you double your package and wait 2 more years, it wouldn't make much difference. If you have nothing against getting married eventually, getting a head start with matches now will give you enough time to pick a good match.

My advice would be to try to upskill. That's the only way out of anything you desire. All other things will always be considered as some excuse or reason to hold yourself back. Give it all for few months. Start applying for roles and simultaneously prepare. If you find the perfect suitable candidate in marriage proposal, make him understand your wants to have a financially decent life for yourself. The whole process in Indian community on an average takes nearly 9-12 months max if he can wait for that long. But here, it will be his choice to wait or move on. You certainly have to devote your time and emotions to judge him and vice versa for him to judge you before getting married.
Don't feel the burden, take one step at a time. May you get what you desire the most

Sew if the guy they are looking for is in same field as you are. See his work location and yours does match. Get assuring that you will be allowed to work.