Marriage after some years
Since this is anonymous I want to know do you feel still in love after 5 years of marriage or you feel bored and think it was a bad decision to marry this person?
Mine was a love marriage with all the love in the world but now the spark , the romance and happiness is gone . We are both busy with our work and something is missing , its not like the older days.. In social media I see people saying that it was their best decision ever in their anniversaries and posting photos where they are happy. Is it just to show the world or they are really that happy even after 5 years of marriage?
Social media life is total trash. I personally know these so called social media couples. All they do it for fame and some money on instagram. But in reality their undies are with big holes. No purpose of life. Their life also becomes stagnant with no content to post in some years. So take a chill pill. If your wife is sincere, honest and supportive in every in every aspect, then no need to worry at all.
Be supportive to her as well. Discuss why is that spark missing, travel to some countries or within India for a week (during off seasons) or so to get that fresh air.
I would guess before marriage since you both were not living together there is always wish to see the faces more often and that excites.
But once you start living together I think it seems to be more common and the discussion will also be more common about the household and the other stuff .
Just my views not sure what others are thinking or have experienced
Yeah at that time when we used to see each other there used to be so much happiness and butterflies in the stomach. Now all the happiness is gone and I sometimes question myself if it was worth doing intercaste marriage( was done with all our families agreement) if in the end all the marriages are same boring and monotonous.
May be its a phase for all the marriages and we need to make some efforts and create good memories to keep this marriage happy.
It’s a phase. Priorities change, doesn’t mean there is no love. Get into a long term commitment, have a child, build a house, take a home loan.. next 20 years of your life will be focused on taking care of these things, you won’t have time to think about these issues
Thank you so much . May be we need to find a way out to sometimes make each other feel special and may be try new things and travel. Thanks
It’s happens. You will see every new phase in marriages. Sometimes you will feel to leave at all and sometimes other things.
Plan something new to try together it will really help
you’re lucky that you experienced love, romance ate least starting of your marriage but there are many people who got married via arranged marriages and never get a time to experience all these due to constant family pressure to have babies, take care there old ailing parents etc. My advice would be Try to get me time where two are completely alone in some trip etc
Never gone through this phase. 10+ years of being married living with parents, no kids. May be because there is still longing for privacy and we can freely travel anywhere since no dependency on kids.
Wow that’s nice. Lucky you and hope you guys live happily ever after. Even after living with parents.. there are no fights ? And no social pressure of having kids?
Boredom is a bliss. According to Harvard research every person should enjoy boredom. In this 5minutes insta delivery boredom is a boon.
Don't give a single fuck about social media.
My own instagram profile will look like a dreamland to an outsider but the truth is not just that.
You don't display fights, disagreements, misunderstandings, foul spoken words, broken promises, disrespected feelings there.
And they are part of every marriage.
After all these years I realised - Boring is good... Keep it light, try to cheer and support each other like friends rather than spouses. It will keep the flame alive.
And if you both have gotten fat - good ... You are comfy.😂
