Marriage advice
I am a Senior Product Manager with 60 lakhs TC.
Age - 29
My parents are advising me to marry a girl from pharma background. CTC would be around 5 LPA.
They are telling that the family is known. I have spoken to the girl and she is beautiful, smart and caring.
But I feel life in Bangalore is expensive. All my friends are working couples. Will I be left out in lifestyle?
But I am not confident of finding anyone on my own. And these days, I fear failed marriage and alimony.
Can’t trust people easily. Hookups, cheating is so common among IT girls in Bangalore.
What should I do?
just make sure they are not seeing u as a cash cow
+1. That's why discuss materialistic aspirations, current lifestyle, post marriage lifestyle, her relationship with money, etc
It's arranged marriage.. guy being cash cow is the primary criteria...
Blindly marry her!! Don't fall into "wife earning high pay" bullshit, unless u want to make your life hell
Bro, it's not that men have a problem just because their wife earns a high salary. There are plenty of men who earn less than their wife and are still living happily. Stop assuming everyone’s experience is the same as yours.
i feel said for selfassuredfellow08 that he couldn’t understand what you are trying to say :)
Just an advice do not run behind a working girl ….i will suggest to marry a non working woman based on my experience. My CTC Is 16 at 7yoe plus 12 lakhs as freelancer fyi. I do not remember a day when we have any ego issues. I respect her a lot. You will feel the caring nature and love your life. You will feel the respect by her too. 90% of working woman have that tendency of mera paisa, then meri life blah blaah
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Just remember whether she is earning 5L or 50L she will be working for 9hours plus whatever the travel time is minimum. So don't except that since her salary is 5L she will b taking care of everything at home.
N don't marry Just cuz it's a known family. See if ur values and thinking match. If those are same anything else doesn't matter much
Good advice
Marry her. You never marry working girl for money, but for other aspects. I wonder why guys look at salary of girls, keeping in mind such huge gender ratio gap amongst working folks.
Marry someone known rather than a complete stranger. Don't compare your life with others. They might have the best visible life, but a screwed personal life. Discuss your aspirations with her. If you feel, you can't afford something, draw the line there and enjoy what you have.
You are already impressed by her traits which matter, rest all is ignorable. If you still want her to earn high as IT girls, then give her right support required post marriage. But remember, it will come at a cost which you will have to bear. And don't forget to discuss career and financial aspirations before marriage.
- Make sure they aren't after your money.
- When there's a huge salary gap between husband and wife, some girls sort of assume husband will do all the expenses even if they are earning. She'll save all her money (never understood why). So make sure these things are discussed. Otherwise you'll end up feeling trapped. See how ambitious is she, what's her future plans regarding her work etc. Whether her parents expect you to take up their expenses. This also happens. Clarify all these things.
My advice would be to not make her salary, the primary factor... What matters in marriage is how well you both can bond and take care of each other as well as your family. If that is good, then trust me, you'll really be at peace at home and in life.
Yes, Blr is expensive but don't fall for people buying expensive things. When i came to blr, even i thought that people are so rich that they spend without thinking. Later when i became friends with a LOT of them, i realised that most of them don't even save 5% or their salary. They spend everything on themselves and don't save or invest anything. Rn they might be enjoying but later when they'll be settled, raise a family, that time they will face lots of issues. with your 60L, trust me you'll live a luxurious life and still save and invest huge chunk. Make sure to not spend blindly on anything and keep a specific budget for yours and your wife's expenses. And you are just 29 right now and already at 60 lpa. In the coming years, you'll only earn more. So don't think much about ctc of the girl. Only check compatibility of her and her family with you and your family.
Do not directly say yes in 1-2 meetings.. talk to her daily for atleast 1 month and get to know everything. Once there's nothing much to talk about, you'll see whether you're compatible or not. Because with a person who bonds well with you, there will always be something to talk about. This is one thing you can do and other is take her out to a restaurant and see her manners. Since this is just early stage so she might be careful about how she needs to behave... So try to make her feel comfortable so that her real self will come out. One final thing, pls do a family background check via any relative that might know them. You don't wanna fall for this latest trend of alimony.
All the best! Keep us posted 😜
Ask her to quit job and become house wife... You will be more happy with that... Her income against yours will not make much difference... Instead talk her to handle house and kids...
Are you effing stupid
Whats your end goal? Even if you feel 60L is inadequate for starting a family then I dont know how much is enough. What lifestyle will you be missing out?
