Making Connections Stronger than Acquaintances (Outside Work)

This is something I struggle with a lot, so thought might as well ask how all of you manage. I am very reserved and while I know that doesn't help my case, that need not be the truth for everyone.

I do put in efforts, but you can't clap with a single hand and it's like being stuck in denial over something that never was.

So the post here is to hear if there's any tried and tested methods that work in moving past acquaintance stage (not necessarily into dating stage though).

Kind of connection I'm thinking of (some examples)

• Like getting people reach out because they missed seeing you at usual hangout/meetup/event.

• Like people reaching out to make plans together for things beyond the so-far common circles.

• Like not being the last choice (or being forgotten entirely) when people are thinking of who to hang out with/makes plans with