Lowering demands from the partner after marriage - A take on the problems in marriage

There are soo many posts around marriage on GV this week. Some are talking about background verification of the groom/bride, some talking about how they dodged the bullet, some justifying dowry, others justifying alimony.

Also, there is a constant person who is constantly posting on every such post and saying "don't get married"

While these posts have a lot of emotions - from fear to happiness, pain to love.

One thing in common is - Most Women (not all) wanna get married to someone better in all ways (looks, finances, personality), and respects them.

Most men (not all) wanna get married to someone who can provide him care, respect and peace.

If we think closely, we are in this state that even getting the above is getting difficult, which is bare minimum.

So I think we need to get our demands a little lower.

1. Women need to understand financial security is a difficult thing to provide. So, if one expects that then they should try to be his emotional support not a burden.

2. Men need to understand, most women have spent life in restrictions and wanna live life openly after marriage. This needs to be discussed clearly and bluntly before marriage.

3. Metro cities, social media, quick delivery systems are making life less happy. We need to understand this and start finding happiness inside ourselves - within relations, within ourselves, within family. Not in materialistic gifts, traveling to destinations, best restaurants.