Lost the love of my life to society. Is love a cruel mistake to do in this country?
I(29M) lost my girlfriend (27F) of two years to her parents’ pressure a week ago. She is a single child and was always pampered throughout her life, and I would always try to give my best to her. We had our fights, but always tried to fix it respectfully.
The issues started last August when her mother straight away denied her marriage with me, citing that I am a 4 while she is an 8 (numerology). She cried a lot for me then, and her mother failed to convince her to leave me.
I didn’t know about this, but her mother also had talked to some pandits, and even though our kundlis had a good score (27), we had nadi dosh which apparently cannot be fixed. Her mother doesn’t believe in pujas as they are temporary fixes.
Recently, we had a rough patch for a month, and her parents smelled blood and made her break up with me by saying that she won’t be happy because of the issues we are facing. I know she has fought over me a lot with her parents but it was always how much she could take as her parents always tried to sabotage this.
They were always against it, but struck at her weak moment when I couldn’t fix our issues. I was ready to fight the world if she was by my side, but what can I do now?
She isn’t replying to my texts and has officially broken up with her side as she cannot go against her parents anymore. Is love a cruel mistake to do in this orthodox country?
I don’t believe in god or pujas, but I was ready to go to every religious place which can fix this naadi dosh so that their parents are convinced.
I get the background of why her mother doesn’t approve of marriage with this dosh as she didn’t check her kundli when she married her husband and faced terrible health issues, but why punish me for this?
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Iam a 4 and she is an 8....yep way out of ur league bro😁😁
On a serious note, just be glad you found out that her parents are psychotic BEFORE getting married. A marriage isn't just two ppl getting together and living their lives, if his/her family is gonna be a pain in the ass before marriage, they will screw ur peace of mind and happiness every day post marriage. Be glad you dodged this bullet, nothing should be done sacrificing yr mental peace.
I knew it would have affect me because of how much her parents believed in astrology and similar things, but my love for her was more than that
Lol,you will laugh at this after 5 years or so. There is no such thing as true love my friend. Plus this is a typical breakup story, I have seen the same pattern different colors too many times now. The earlier you move on the better. Good luck
Rule of thumb: If she doesn't stand by you during the most critical of times, you don't waste a second putting in your effort after that. They are neither worth our efforts nor our tears.
She stood by me for a year, fought so hard for me with her parents. I have seen her suffer. I just wanted to be with her, dreamt my life with her as she is a pure soul.
Dunno man how can I move on
Man these comments are so bad!! I truly feel bad for you bro! There's no hope in this country, true. I'm really sorry mate
I hope she changes her mind. Give her time to think and come back. This happened (parental presssure) happened to us while convincing our parents. It took 2 plus years. Unpleasant situations with parenrs continued even after marriage. All I meant to say is that it is a difficult journey. But in my opinion totally worth fighting.
Like I am learning astrology . So being a learner i should not comment on or make generic statements . But i have seen couples where one person has such bad placements in their chart that it brought the other person down . There are actual people with such bad placements in their chart that they have multiple divorces and death of spouse . Kundali matching is partially accurate , guy and gals chart need to be checked individually . her parents don’t hate you , she just had a really bad marriage and she is being protective of her daughter . And it’s a weird thing to say but you can’t give up your family for your love . Sounds weird , but your chart might not be the problem sounds like your ex chart has some issue which is being covered up . It’s unfortunate what happened to you . but a very weird suggestion , get her and your chart checked . Might be you are being saved from something bigger . So sorry about your heartbreak though . You seem to be in pain .
You got saved from the future torture from her mother. Believe me!
Your love was weak my friend. As soon as you will accept this, you will be at peace.