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I am going to start looking for parter in matrimony websites . I would like suggestion from Men and women how to proceed with talks . Should I talk to more than one girl at a time . I think this might not be correct but not sure if women will be doing the same. If anyone here ended with the right partner can you please share how you took from day1 to decision that yes we should go forward. Did you put your priorities on initial days only or day1 or you knew the person then when deeper in your talks Women advice would be requested as how you are expecting us to talk
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Yea this arrange marriage setup feels like hypocrisy to me. One day youre talking to one lady and talking about her life , her future plans and aliging with yours as if you two are going to be a thing.
Suddenly things dont workout and you have to do all those same conversations with another girl. Thats out of my mind.
Unfortunately ill have to start with this AM thing this year as well.
As someone who found his life-partner through matrimony, my two cents:
- Yes, absolutely connect and talk with multiple girls at a time. If anything, it increases your probability of finding the right match without wasting too much time. But once you are feeling the connect with someone in your conversation, cut down the connecting with new connects.
- Keep it casual from Day 1 but be your true self (if your true self is a respectful gentleman). Don't be afraid to express yourself and your feelings, but also ensure you don't drag your expressions too much. Listen more than what you say. Be a good conversation holder. The right person would love u fr who u are.
- Don't start venting your priorities from Day 1. Take it a bit slow initially and prioritise more abt knowing the other person and their conditioning while also letting them know more abt u. In this process itself, your priorities gets expressed and believe u me, the other party shall be reading between the lines of all that u will be saying. If you outrightly start venting your priorities to the other, you come across as needy.
And again, congratulations for the journey ahead!
all the best ji, hope you find someone sweet & both of you have chill life. shaadi ki party zarur rakhna.
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If you talk 1 by 1, you'll take 20 years to run through the list. Do parallel processing. You're not dating or committing to the one person you're talking to.
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Ppl on arranged marriage sites are there for marriage. So don't beat around the bush. Be upfront with our specifications and requirements. 1st call can be casual and inquiring. If you feel a good vibe then on the second call you can list your priorities.
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Speak to women friends in your life to hear their side.
Thanks for the advice. This sounds appropriate
Women friendship ended after college
You meet someone with an intent to marry, then they are not going to expose their real face. If you want to know in detail about them, it cant happen through Matrimony. You cant interview each other like at work.
If you are going for arranged marriage, see what is your quality that you will bring to the table. A lot changes after marriage and your qualities are the only hooks to keep you both together. Give more and she will also give more. Thats the best way in my opinion to do arranged marriage.
If you meet some at Infy without an intent to marry and you liked their qualities then you have more choices. But again what you offer in a marriage life matters a lot.
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