Long time friend and gf is about to get married

Just came out of this phase. I know how it feels. I have seen phases where I’ve stopped loving myself and my existence but this is acute short term pain. I won’t say, go to gym this doesn’t work for everyone. You have to go through that pain and should take your time to heal. This is what worked for me:

1. Talked to lots of friends, 8/10 tried to blame her. This affect us more because she was my love and I can’t hear bad about her. I did everything for us and I was in love.
2. Talked to friends who just came out of this phase, they really helped as they’re a good listener and understand POV.
3. I cried a lot in office, home washroom. Had very intense 3-4 weeks. I was full of emotions. Crying helped. I didn’t remember when I cried last time before this incident.
4. Luckily, I have few professor friends aged 50. Their perspective helped to understand long term game. Getting someone is one thing, be with them for lifetime is other games.
5. I started doing journaling. Out poured my emotions, good/bad. It worked.
6. 4-6 weeks, I realized I can’t be this miserable always. Started going for lake side walk, focused on exercise, clean diets. It’s definitely helping and I’ve started loving myself.

Lately, I realized if I’m not happy, I can ruin other beautiful relationships around me. My only priority for now is self happiness and I’m exploring what I always wanted to do and feeling happy doing it.

Dar mat ye bhej de usko bhai. All the best, batana zaroor hum sab ko reply kya aya 🫂

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About to get married...... You have a chance to confess....just do it...

Why is no one recommending you melatonin strips/pills. That shit saved me bro, obviously try not to get addicted. But man, that shit will save you

Like other people have said

1. You gotta go through the pain. There's no shortcut here. Don't be afraid to cry.
2. Like someone said, being with someone and living with them throughout your life is a whole different ball game.
3. Trust the process. The process of life, God's process. Maybe someone better is out there for you.
4. Do coding, build something, attend events, go walk in parks randomly, try out new restaurants.
5. Cut off ALL contact with her, for atleast a year, till you heal. Resume post healing. You might not want to by then.

It's tough, you'll get through it. Give it time.

Hi bro, i was at your place 2 years before. Believe you will overcome it. Give time. These are things which will help you:

1. No contact rule We all are humans and definitely there will be high tendency to check their social media profiles. Cut everything

2. Get a dog This really helps bro. Take a puppy. It will always be with you. It is very nice to play with them and see them growing.

3. Accept the pain bro Its ok. You will feel pain. You are a human. Cry if you feel like. Let it out. Be okay with yourself. I was all alone himself. I didnt had friends. I still remember being shabby while attending a office meeting. I couldnt sleep, i could feel like eating

4. Go for a solo trip Mountains are best. It will heal you.

5. Help poor people

6. Feed street dogs

7. Workout or Run I know that you wont feel like doing. Dont listen to your emotions, do it mechanically.

Do things i life mechanically. I know its against on what your emotions says.

At last, I takes time bro, dont worry u will be alright. You will come up as better stronger person Believe me!

focus on your growth... nothing else matters in life

hope you get some sleep and peace buddy.