Long distance marriage😔
💭 Life sometimes puts us in situations we never imagined. I am a 30-year-old working in a Big4 in Gurgaon, while my wife is a government officer posted in Bihar. Her job demands her presence there, and my work requires me to stay here.
We try to bridge the distance—I visit her every alternate month—but truth be told, when I’m in Gurgaon, the loneliness hits hard. The house feels empty, evenings feel longer, and sometimes the silence gets overwhelming.
Long-distance marriage is not easy. Managing careers, responsibilities, and emotions together is a constant challenge. 💔
Is anyone else sailing in the same boat? How do you deal with the loneliness and keep the bond strong despite the miles? Any advice or experiences would mean a lot. 🙏
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If in case it is not a love marriage, why did you say YES for such an arrangement before marriage?
People marry for companionship and that itself is missing.
The only option you have brother is Switch immediately and take a Remote/WFH job.
Both of you would be happy in this arrangement only.
All the best
Ours was a love marriage only, and at that time I never imagined that she would crack a government exam and become a gazetted officer. She always wanted to be financially independent, and I don’t want to be a reason for stopping her
I was in long distance marriage for 2 years.
He was in Hyderabad and I was in Mumbai. We travelled every month to meet eachother. Usually i used to travel as I used to get wfh for 2-3 days.
We used to talk on phone at night. My husband felt more lonely compared to me.
Thinking of it now it has made our bond very strong and have developed very strong trust in eachother.
You both can travel little more. Also, u guys need to think of plan as it can't be long distance forever.
I used to have a frd/colleague with same situation. He finally got a job in close to his hometown and now every weekend he visits. Govt office job is best for her, so you can plan to shift to a place close by or try for a remote opportunity. Don't chase for package
Getting a good remote job with decent package is also very difficult these days
Look for a WFH job and move to Bihar.
It's a central govt job then she can transfer to Gurgaon
Any possibility of you getting WFH ? If not, can you find a job with WFH? The reason is because you mentioned loneliness when you are not with her .. having those feelings is a good indication that you want to be with her..get WFH soon. As you grow older you may stop feeling what you feel now. The clock waits for nobody.
How are your guys managing, how long have you been married and when did she join ? How is the culture and work pressure in her new role?
